Hi, friends. I have decided, not to quit posting, b ut to limit my posting to mostly advice to parents who have adult children that have gone through what my adult kids went through a long time ago. My reason is, I am doing so well in my personal life and none of my kids are problems now...Bart will always struggle under pressure, but I am proud of how he takes care of the bills, goes to work, and loves his son. We are close and talk every day as I do with almost all my kids...every day, every other day. I have gone through a lot with Bart in his 20's (and during his custody battle the first time) and with Princess in her teens, but am proud of how they turned out. Goneboy is not an issue anymore.There are no hard feelings and lots of understanding. I don't want to post on FOO because the kids are really back in that forum and I basically do not have the same problems with my grown kids now. Trust me, if that changes, I'll tell you!! I am also pretty done with worrying about my family of origin. I think that no contact with them just put them out of my mind and think it's a good solution for some people (not all). It has been the magical solution for me a nd makes me feel silly that I didn't think to do it myself years ago. I do not know why I felt I had to stay in touch with people who really didn't like me and who have no clue about mental illness and who think they are better at diagnosing me than all the psychiatrists who have. Total lack of compassion there, although I totally do not pity myself and have my mood disorder in control. Now, with no contact from those who don't understand, I don't care what they think. I have a very good family of choice...they matter. Those who don't care about me, DNA or not, do not matter. I will pop in on FOO sometimes for encouragement to my dear friends. I am not angry at anyone. Also, I have to think about FOO member of mine who reads my posts and don't want her to have any more keys to my heart. I don't think she will ever stop reading t his forum and pouring my heart out with her reading it is not a good idea for me. To my friends Copa and Cedar, I lost t he password to my gmail account when I was in the hospital. I can be reached in PM and WILL answer. Love you still. So...in other words, if I think my two cents will be worthwhile, I'll post on the "what should I do" forums. If not, I won't, but will still read. Thanks for understanding less posting I'll still be around and reachable.