It's been a long week since difficult child's arrest. He continued with IOP and we had in-home services in place for family counseling. His behavior was up and down. The rift between he and husband became unmanageable and they almost came to blows in the middle of the night one night when difficult child refused to go to bed, husband confronted him (somewhat aggressively) and things got out of hand. difficult child ended up taking the last material posession from him that night, his laptop. When I got home from work later the next day, difficult child had retaliated by moving the 50" TV the husband got for his birthday to his room to hide it and then took a treasured picture that we had of a ski trip we took with difficult child as a 4 year old. It was me, husband and difficult child - he scratched out husband's face in the picture. Troubling. We made it to Rehab yesterday so we have respite for now. After difficult child's initial meeting with the therapist there, she has already expressed concerns to me with any plan that includes him going home after 28 days. She said there are too many issues and too many concerns. The conflict with Dad being on of them, his best friend trying to break a heroine addiction the other, him now being in a very unstructurred home schooling situation, etc. She did not want to rule it out yet, it's just the first day, but I coiuld see the wheels in motion. I don't necessarily disagree. difficult child refuses any lmitis or rules, will not comply and constantly questions them, demands an explaination then argues against it. With me, I stay calm and won't engage so it doesn't escalate. With husband, he loses it and can't understand "what's wrong with this kid". It breaks my heart, he is my son, why can't he live at home with us....but I can see why. I am worried in a way that I have never been worried before. What kinds of long-temr programs are there? My husband refuses to fund any program but doesn't think he should come home. Through most of the journey with difficult child, I have remained strong - today I feel so weak. I feel like there is no hope.