SO, Tink now has a formal diagnosis of bipolar and ADHD. For a couple years, all prior to her first psychiatric hospital visit, she was on Abilify. DUring those years we have trialled Metadate (made her cry), Focalin (made her violent), Tenex (made her sleepy), Prozac (turned her into her own evil twin). She was on Abilify only when she went to the psychiatric hospital the first time. The doctor there gave her a medication wash, then put her on Lithium and Seroquil. She got out and was readmitted the very next day. I told the doctors to take her off the Lithium because I did not like what it was doing to her. She was more belligerent than ever. So the doctor took her off that and put her on Adderall but kept her on the Seroquil. She was discharged a second time, and a couple days later I took her to see her regular psychiatrist. He and I did not like what the Adderall was doing to her eyes. Her pupils were huge! Plus she seemed agitated. So he switched her to Concerta. She was beyond manic on the Concerta, not eating or sleeping, so when she went to the psychiatric hospital for the 3rd time I ordered them to take her off of it. The doctor there suggested we try the Adderall again. She went back on it for 5 days before I asked them to take her off again. While she is not manic on it, she is very impulsive and unable to sit still. So after 2 days of no Adderall, we are tying Strattera. Now I've read up on everything there is to read on all these medications, but I was wondering if I can get some first hand experience from the REAL experts - you guys. As far as an update on Tink, she is still in the hospital, and I am hoping against all hope that she will be out by Christmas. We have a family therapy session today, and that will be key to her discharge - she needs to be able to sit through at least one session without flipping out. You know, there is a part of her that prefers to be in the hospital. It is safe for her. She misses me and all, but the second we start to talk about the real world and respecting me and my rules at home, she goes nuts. She actually tried to tell the therapist that if I have rules and consequences for her, then she gets to have rules and consequences for me. It is the hardest thing in the world to give her the structure she needs at home. She fights me every step of the way. Plus she pushes my buttons and tries to make me feel bad for her when she is not getting what she wants. And the guilt usually gets to me. Good news is I finally am getting help for myself. I have an appointment with the county next week with a therapist. The other bit of good news is that a lawyer is helping me pro bono to fight the school. All this time, Tink has never had an IEP. After her discharge last time, they gave me a consolation prize of a 504, which was stupid. It stated that Tink was only to attend half days and no homework. At first it actually sounded like a pretty good idea, to ease her back into school, but the kid is gonna fail 3rd grade if this keeps up. So the lawyer contacted the school district, and within one day they agreed to put her in a therapeutic school while they conduct a case study. Sad that it took a letter from an attorney to get that. I've only been asking for 3 years. Sorry this got so wordy. Look forward to comments!