So I haven't posted in a while - my son's been out of state on his visitation with his dad. I've been distracting myself with summer employment that requires me to commute 2 hours one way. Tonight I got a half day to attend a court hearing that got pushed back another month and I've been reading and thinking (ack maybe not a good thing!). Tomorrow is my son's 7th birthday. He told me before he left that he wanted me to call him every day. I have. 75% of the time I get the voice mail and never get to talk to my son. I've spoken with him maybe 2x a week in the past 6. And I have 2 weeks left to go. My ex-AH sent me an email last week telling me I'd only be allowed to talk to my son 2 days a week, Weds and Sundays and was told to stop calling other days because it was disruptive. So I'm sitting here wondering if I'm going to be "allowed" to talk to my son on his birthday. 2 weeks ago my son told me his dad was spanking him and he didn't like it there and wanted to come home. Spanking him tends to bring out his ODD and makes him MUCH more aggressive. I had to tell him to talk to his dad about it with the counselor there and that he'd be coming home soon. I got an email from my ex-AH with the explaination that my son was being spanked because he had hit his dad. According to his dad, my son needs to learn that when he hits someone he needs to expect to be hit back. Uh huh. So my ex-AH's excuse is "he hit me first." <sigh> When I spoke with my son two days ago he told me that he had to "make a choice". When I pressed further, he told me that he had to "make a choice between talking with you mommy or playing longer and I made a choice and I have to go." Uh huh. So my son is being made to choose between talking with his mom or playing/watching tv. Like that's a fair choice for a 6 year old. So I'm sitting here realizing that two weeks away is still stretching out in front of me. Realizing that after 8 weeks with "disneyland dad" means tons of work to get him back on a decent behavior plan, review his school work <his dad was supposed to enroll him in summer school according to the divorce settlement and didn't>, get him back on his medications, and spin my wheels in a courtroom that just constantly continues hearings instead of holding ex-AH responsible for his responsibilities.