As a moody adult daughter myself, I would ask you to consider what the origins of her "moodiness" might be? What kind of childhood did she have? Did you have a close relationship until 1)you remarried 2) she married? 3)she became pregnant?. Perhaps the issue is not you or your husband but the predicament she now finds herself in. If the only thing you bring to the situation is your own needs, than perhaps that is what she is picking up on. If you never had a close relationship than what do you expect? If you want a close relationship maybe instead of being put out, you might want to approach her one on one with a sincere and open heart to "get to the bottom" of the tension in your relationship. If you can not approach your own daughter with sincerity and concern than perhaps the problem stems from that. You WERE the adult. You WERE in charge. It was your responsibility when she was a child. It, sad to say, is still your responsibility to fix it. Suck it up and be the bigger person. Ask her honestly how you can help. What can YOU do to make her life happier? Tell her you are genuinely concerned about her demeanor...not because it makes you or your husband uncomfortable, but because you are her mom, you love her and are truly worried. Hope this helps.