I am truly at a loss and I don't know where to turn for help. My husband and I have 5 kids, ages, 21,18,13,10, and 7. They all live at home, at the moment. Our 21 year old has been in and out of the home several times. When he is here, are home is in utter turmoil, most of the time. Tonight took the cake. He came home early this morning at 3:40 with 2 of his friends. They were higher than a kite. I awoke to our 13 year old daughter, saying our son was making out with someone on the couch! This infuriated my husband to know end. He has a terrible anger problem and when he begins to rage. We told our son to pack it up and get out, he and his friends. Our home is not to be used as a party crash pad, we have young children here. Our 21 son, as a big mouth on him too. Lots of f words flying, etc. He was gone all day today. (He has no job and he just registered for the community college yesterday). He knocked on the door at 5pm this evening and my husband and I decided he could sleep it off and that we would talk later because of the kids, we didn't want the screaming match anymore. Well, he wouldn't shut up and my husband completely lost his mind. He told our son to get out; our son said he is not going anywhere because he has nowhere to go. My husband follows him downstairs and physically tries to remove him from the house. A fight ensues and our other children are hysterical beyond belief. They are crying and saying, "stop it Dad, don't hit (our son)". I haven't witnessed quite this bad before, it was completely out of control. My 13 year old daughter picks up a Christmas ceramic and it crashes to the floor breaking into a million pieces. The kids are bawling at this point. My husband decides to come upstairs and yell at our daughter, call her an ass and a traitor and acts like he might hit her, she is freaked out. Our 18 year old son comes up and tell his Dad to shut the f Up. My husband then starts in on him. I am yelling at the top of my lungs, to shut up and get out. He yells obscenities at all of us, gets his keys and leaves the house. Everyone is in tears, we are all traumatized and do not know what to do. I have been married to this man for 24 years. I have always known he has anger issues, but now the kids are saying they are afraid of him. 30 minutes before our son got home, everything was going good. We had peace in the home, my husband was cooking dinner and the kids were playing together, everything was great. This morning wasn't good at all, finding our son and his friends completely wasted and using our family home as a crash pad. Our son has no respect for us or this home. Our home reeked of smoke. There is so much to this, I know I need to stop. Can someone please help me out here? How do we get this adult kid to move out without using force? Do we need to have the cops remove him? He has nowhere to go, he will be homeless without a job, etc. What does a mom and wife do? I am at a complete loss.