So, after weeks and months of not being allowed to say the "G" word (Goth or Gothic) or I would get in 'trouble' for 'picking on' difficult child (I really wasn't...was just stating fact, but she's a bit sensitive).... difficult child asks me tonight - if I had to label her, what would I label her? AHA! I think to myself. I'm too smart for this. So, I told her that I would label her 'original', while feeling quite proud of myself for not getting suckered into THAT particular quagmire. No, difficult child says, if you had to stereotype me, what would you say. Hmmm...this was going to get sticky. You mean like Preppy or whatever, I ask, careful to avoid the "G" word. Yes, she replies. Well, you seem to prefer the Gothic style (notice I didn't say she was Gothic), I tell her. She asks if I think Goth or Gothic. There's a difference? Yes, Goth is more hard core Gothic and Gothic is just the style of clothing, etc. At this point my head hurts. I didn't know there was a difference. I'm really afraid of saying the wrong thing, but take a deep breath and go for it and tell her that I think Gothic, then. I answered right. And apparently she has researched this and psychologists have said that teens that are into the Goth/ic scene are more artistic and more intelligent than your average joe and as adults end up with high paying, intelligence required jobs. I told her that didn't surprise me because she is very intelligent AND creative. I also told her that I was never picking on her, that I was just identifying with her when we were picking out clothes and I would pick something up and say this seems to be more Gothic (which is when I got in trouble). I told her that while I never wanted to be just like everyone else at her age, that I never would have had the courage to just be who I am when it was so different from the norm and that I admired her for that. (Although, I do believe the Goth scene is becoming more 'popular'.) So, now I'm allowed to call her Gothic. My Gothic girl who knits.