This morning I woke up feeling not so great, I feel rundown and tired most mornings, but this morning was special. I came out in my robe and ready to take the smallest puppy (easy child's) outside to do her business - it takes about 5 minutes tops. There was H sitting at the table and I asked him if he would please take her out for me and he said, "Nope" and went back to his paper. I begged a little and he adamantly refused. I have to say that I was really hurt. I know it seems like stupid thing, but I really felt crappy and it would have just been a nice thing for him to do for me. But he has principles. He refuses to walk or take pup out with the other two (our dogs) because she's not 'our' dog...H says that I "stupidly allowed easy child to bring her home and now she's" my problem. Okay, I can live with that I guess, but once in a blue moon, he can't just take her out to pee in the morning for me while I wake up? Today I had to work late, so I called home and asked him to start dinner. We're eating dinner and he said something about the pup. I said, "Yeah, thanks for taking her out for me this morning - I felt like such ****", and he exploded. I mean he was yelling and ranting about how much he does, how hard he works, everything he's paid for in the house, and how sick and tired he is of being made to feel that he's a shlump. Hmmm. I calmly asked him why he was yelling, but he continued yelling and brought up stuff that we've needed to do for the past year and how I haven't done anything. Hmmmm, again. First, let me start by saying that I do all the housework. Well, at least 95% of the housework. I do all the laundry. If H does any laundry, he picks out his clothing only. I do all the dishes...in the morning, at lunchtime when I run home during my only break for lunch to take the dogs out and again at dinner time - after making dinner. I make dinner 98% of the time. H makes dinner maybe 3-4 times a year, though he counts BBQ-ing, which as we all know, I do all the prep work - all he does is check to see when the meat is done. And I still do all the clean up. When he makes coffee in the morning, I thank him. And he leaves his cup and dish in the sink for me to clean up, along with all the crumbs on the counter. I do the vacuuming and mopping and dusting; I change the sheets on the bed, I clean the windows. I bathe the dogs. He will actually say sometimes, "The windows need to be cleaned"; but then not do it. Last night, he crawled into bed and said, "We need another blanket". I was already asleep and he woke me up so I said, "Yeah, go get one" but he didn't. He just went to sleep. So, IOW, he mentioned it so I would get the blanket. The tires on my car have been nuts and I stopped twice to check the air and fill them and every time, someone would immediately pull up and stand there staring at me while they waited. I left. I asked H if he would check them and use his air compressor to fill them and he just said, "No, go to Mobil". Thanks honey. He complains that I do nothing to contribute to the addition either in effort of monitarily. He is resentful of that and so I feel that he, in turn, is refusing to do anything for me. At all.Let's talk about the addition. First of all, he asked for my input and when I gave it to him, he said, "No, we're doing it this way" (why ask me then?) - the more time consuming and expensive way, by the way. Next it's the money. He is annoyed that I don't give him any money towards. Well, it's about all I can do to stretch my check through the month and last year I had every intention of handing over a good portion of my bonus check, but as you may recall, I netted zero on my bonus check last year. I make decent money, but I also pay all the utilities in our home, plus my own bills. I don't have a stockpile of cash around. The addition was not my idea but if I had the money, I would gladly contribute. I do contribute in other ways, though they may not be huge. I will buy paint or small things for decorative. I buy the supplies for the pool, I also buy all the food for the house. It's not like I keep my money and squirrel it away or spend it frivolously! He put new gutters on the house earlier this week and said, "You owe me $350 for your half of the gutters". I just took the dogs to the groomers today and plunked out $145! I don't ask him for anything to help pay for their care. I nearly went bankrupt when Sophie was ill last year and he never paid for anything! I am so so so so so sick of this attitude. We don't even OWN this house. It's in his father's name, not ours. I think he's resentful of my going to school as well. He tells me not to fix dinner on those nights and then when we're in mixed company complains loudly that I don't cook every night. WTH? Then if I do cook something, he complains and says, "I wish you wouldn't bother cooking on school nights". I have news for him, the reason I cook on those nights is so I can eat when I get home at 9:30PM because I'm starved and don't have time to skarf something down beforehand! I am just tired and I know he's tired and whatever. Just had to get that out. Thanks if you're still with me.