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odd&adhd-family
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My husband is also has AD/HD and ODD, which makes him feel like he can completely understand my AD/HD & ODD difficult child (he is the step-dad though, not bio. dad). husband's methods have worked to a point in the past couple of years, but in the last few months the ODD has surfaced BIG TIME and his methods just don't cut it anymore. Now he refuses to be part of any new roads I am trying to take for my difficult child.
I just started therapy for difficult child a month ago and the psychologist has now recommended medications. Now, let me say first that when the diagnosis of AD/HD and ODD was first made back in Kindergarden I was totally against medications. I was determined to try behavioral therapy at home first and see where that got us. Now my difficult child is in 2nd grade, for the past week now. I have already been called to an emergency parent-teacher conference yesterday for his completely defiant behavior all day long. At open house, I had already given the teacher a letter about his AD/HD and ODD, told her what to look for, how to handle him, etc. Problem #1 is that in 2nd grade he gets less one-on-one attention and the issues are surfacing without the attention he was able to receive last year. I am trying to communicate with the teacher openly about his behavior and treatment both at home and at school so we can work together.
But here's case and point - husband's methods still aren't working with only behavioral intervention. In one week of school thus far, difficult child has had only 2 good days at school, and on those 2 good school days the time at home was full blown battle. There have been NO good days overall in a long time.
So, now I have spoken to the psychologist, along with difficult child's bio. father and fiance (also a school counselor) and we are all on board with difficult child seeing a psychologist and trying medications. BUT, my own husband will not support me in my decisions! Our marriage is suffering as well since my difficult child's ODD has gotten so out of hand, and without the support of my husband I feel we are all falling apart.
Searching for some peace, somewhere, somehow.....
I just started therapy for difficult child a month ago and the psychologist has now recommended medications. Now, let me say first that when the diagnosis of AD/HD and ODD was first made back in Kindergarden I was totally against medications. I was determined to try behavioral therapy at home first and see where that got us. Now my difficult child is in 2nd grade, for the past week now. I have already been called to an emergency parent-teacher conference yesterday for his completely defiant behavior all day long. At open house, I had already given the teacher a letter about his AD/HD and ODD, told her what to look for, how to handle him, etc. Problem #1 is that in 2nd grade he gets less one-on-one attention and the issues are surfacing without the attention he was able to receive last year. I am trying to communicate with the teacher openly about his behavior and treatment both at home and at school so we can work together.
But here's case and point - husband's methods still aren't working with only behavioral intervention. In one week of school thus far, difficult child has had only 2 good days at school, and on those 2 good school days the time at home was full blown battle. There have been NO good days overall in a long time.
So, now I have spoken to the psychologist, along with difficult child's bio. father and fiance (also a school counselor) and we are all on board with difficult child seeing a psychologist and trying medications. BUT, my own husband will not support me in my decisions! Our marriage is suffering as well since my difficult child's ODD has gotten so out of hand, and without the support of my husband I feel we are all falling apart.
Searching for some peace, somewhere, somehow.....