shellyd67
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We have had the same group of neighbors since we moved to our home 12years ago. All our children have grown up together. We consider them good friends and vice versa. There have been many times through the years there has been extreme tension due to difficult child's behavior issues. I have ALWAYS been the type of parent to be aware of things difficult child has done to other kids such as, bossiness, lying, aggressiveness, being in their personal space, arguing, etc.... He has NEVER hit another child and believe me alot of these kids do the same things just in a different way (whining, crying, complaining etc.) He has been punished if the behavior is extreme and made to apologize. Once he told the neighbors cousin he was going to burn his house down ( that didn't go over big and mortified was an understatement) Alot of the times he is unaware how much he annoys other kids (poor kid) It seems like everytime he is outside playing all I hear is the other kids screaming his name for something he has done. It is getting very old ! Now again let me stress all the kids in the neighborhood have some sort of issue but he always seems to be the blame. For many years I blamed him too until husband pointed so many things out to me and suggested I pay closer attention to the other kids behaviors.
He wants to spend so much time at the neighbors house and I am sure they are just being nice and letting him play there so not to create more tension. Many times we will not let him go inside so we don't have to worry what the heck he will do. I did speak with my neighbors explaining difficult child's problems and issues and asked that if he misbehaves to send him right home. He hasn't been sent home but I think they will feel I will be mad if he is sent home. Sorry for rambling but this has been a heavy burden on me for years now.
If anyone has any strategies or advice I would love to hear it !
He wants to spend so much time at the neighbors house and I am sure they are just being nice and letting him play there so not to create more tension. Many times we will not let him go inside so we don't have to worry what the heck he will do. I did speak with my neighbors explaining difficult child's problems and issues and asked that if he misbehaves to send him right home. He hasn't been sent home but I think they will feel I will be mad if he is sent home. Sorry for rambling but this has been a heavy burden on me for years now.
If anyone has any strategies or advice I would love to hear it !