It's been awhile since I've been on this forum. Some health issues and a death in the family. I have a 22 year old who has been estranged from the family for a year ~ He was living with some friends - in fact the last time I posted was in regards to that whole disfunctional situation. He has not worked and has spent the year being unproductive and doing drugs. He was asked to leave the place he was living (not sure why) ~ He says he wants help but is still playing the blame game. He is staying with my mom right now - not sure what to do - if anything. He was abused as a child - I left his dad when he was 12 and that's when his drug abuse started. My guilt and being a "mom" are preventing me from seeing things without emotion. I will do whatever will be the best for him ~ Do I let go completely? The last time he lived with me - He was caught doing drugs in my house - got violent - threw his younger brother against the wall and attacked my husband.