Imgoinlooney4sure
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Hi,
I visit here periodically. I would log in every day if my schedule weren't so tight. My question relates to getting help for my 13-yo 7th grade ADHD son. He is very bright, and we were told he does not qualify for an IEP, although we never formally pursued the process. The problem is not in his ability to learn, but in his ability to organize, focus, and use his time wisely. He is in his third year of advanced math at his school, and he has been getting Ds and Fs on every quiz and test so far. We would love to help him out at home, but it is next to impossible because we do not know what his assignments are (until way after the fact most of the time) and when tests or quizzes will be happening, or even the material that will be tested. My husband is a high school math teacher, and our son is exceptional in math. The problem is that he doesn't always focus well in school. When we help him at home, he performs much better.
Teachers to this point have helped us out a lot by allowing us to keep an extra textbook copy at home and communicating via e-mail, etc. His present teacher is not helping in the least. While the school implements an agenda system, our difficult child does not use it approriately. His handwriting is terrible and almost impossible to read, and he often copies things down wrong, if he even copies it at all.
We have asked his present teacher to e-mail us each Friday with his assignments due for the following week as well as test dates, material covered, and a review sheet if possible. Two days ago, we received a very abrasive e-mail in reply (which she co-copied to the principal) stating that the school uses the agenda system and that she will sign it to make sure our difficult child writes in it. The problem is that the agenda reports what was already completed, not what is coming up, so it doesn't help much until after the fact. She said if we want to know what the assignments are that we should log in to the school grade system, which will reveal when he has failed to turn in an assignment. But again, this is after the fact. Then, she said she will not e-mail us and that she does not feel "comfortable" giving us the assignments ahead of time, since she may change them. Also, she said some of the quizzes are "pop" quizzes and she doesn't inform students ahead of time. She says our difficult child should be writing in his agenda, which of course, he does not. She said she has no review sheets. She said there are no extra textbooks. I AM SO ENTIRELY FRUSTRATED. All I want is some communication here. Not one thing in her response indicated that we can get any help. Is there anything we can do or that we have a right to? difficult child is on the brink of failing, and some communication could prevent it. Any thoughts?
I visit here periodically. I would log in every day if my schedule weren't so tight. My question relates to getting help for my 13-yo 7th grade ADHD son. He is very bright, and we were told he does not qualify for an IEP, although we never formally pursued the process. The problem is not in his ability to learn, but in his ability to organize, focus, and use his time wisely. He is in his third year of advanced math at his school, and he has been getting Ds and Fs on every quiz and test so far. We would love to help him out at home, but it is next to impossible because we do not know what his assignments are (until way after the fact most of the time) and when tests or quizzes will be happening, or even the material that will be tested. My husband is a high school math teacher, and our son is exceptional in math. The problem is that he doesn't always focus well in school. When we help him at home, he performs much better.
Teachers to this point have helped us out a lot by allowing us to keep an extra textbook copy at home and communicating via e-mail, etc. His present teacher is not helping in the least. While the school implements an agenda system, our difficult child does not use it approriately. His handwriting is terrible and almost impossible to read, and he often copies things down wrong, if he even copies it at all.
We have asked his present teacher to e-mail us each Friday with his assignments due for the following week as well as test dates, material covered, and a review sheet if possible. Two days ago, we received a very abrasive e-mail in reply (which she co-copied to the principal) stating that the school uses the agenda system and that she will sign it to make sure our difficult child writes in it. The problem is that the agenda reports what was already completed, not what is coming up, so it doesn't help much until after the fact. She said if we want to know what the assignments are that we should log in to the school grade system, which will reveal when he has failed to turn in an assignment. But again, this is after the fact. Then, she said she will not e-mail us and that she does not feel "comfortable" giving us the assignments ahead of time, since she may change them. Also, she said some of the quizzes are "pop" quizzes and she doesn't inform students ahead of time. She says our difficult child should be writing in his agenda, which of course, he does not. She said she has no review sheets. She said there are no extra textbooks. I AM SO ENTIRELY FRUSTRATED. All I want is some communication here. Not one thing in her response indicated that we can get any help. Is there anything we can do or that we have a right to? difficult child is on the brink of failing, and some communication could prevent it. Any thoughts?