pepperidge
New Member
HI my 13 year son is having an FBA done this week at school, as a follow up to his agressive behavior in Dec when he was on an SSRI and his general impulsiveness.
The FBA person wants to ask me a few questions about his medication and what attachment therapy he has had. I am really annoyed at the latter. It seems like there are some people out there who view all issues in adopted kids as attachment issues. Yes some adopted kids have severe attachment issues, yes all adopted kids need to come to terms with their adoption but Hello this is a kid with Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). Why don't we start there.
Anyway she is a nice lady from what I know of her but I am a bit annoyed at the school at this point. The principal is angry at my son for his "discipline infractions" and he is angry at us for having a kid with discipline problems. Hello, the kid has a disability. We don't like his behavior but getting angry doesn't help anyone. so this was the last straw.
So what do I tell the FBA lady that won't get me labeled as a defensive b****? Why are you interested in the attachment therapy question? That I don't think it is any business of the school what issues we have discussed with the 14 or so mental health, speech and Occupational Therapist (OT) providers that we have seen over the past thirteen years? I have typically in the past signed releases so that they could talk to child therapist or psychiatrist but I am really not inclined in this case.
Anyway I do want to maintain good relations with school but I am seriously running out of goodwill at this point.
The FBA person wants to ask me a few questions about his medication and what attachment therapy he has had. I am really annoyed at the latter. It seems like there are some people out there who view all issues in adopted kids as attachment issues. Yes some adopted kids have severe attachment issues, yes all adopted kids need to come to terms with their adoption but Hello this is a kid with Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). Why don't we start there.
Anyway she is a nice lady from what I know of her but I am a bit annoyed at the school at this point. The principal is angry at my son for his "discipline infractions" and he is angry at us for having a kid with discipline problems. Hello, the kid has a disability. We don't like his behavior but getting angry doesn't help anyone. so this was the last straw.
So what do I tell the FBA lady that won't get me labeled as a defensive b****? Why are you interested in the attachment therapy question? That I don't think it is any business of the school what issues we have discussed with the 14 or so mental health, speech and Occupational Therapist (OT) providers that we have seen over the past thirteen years? I have typically in the past signed releases so that they could talk to child therapist or psychiatrist but I am really not inclined in this case.
Anyway I do want to maintain good relations with school but I am seriously running out of goodwill at this point.