I'm finding myself in a tough situation that both myself and husband have pretty much let happen. One AD with a boyfriend and two young children. She works and makes a good salary. She seems okay, but did suffer from depression(needed hospitalization) during teen years. He tries to get work(I think) when possible, it's been difficult due to a felony record. No problems for 12 years, but it still affects employment. He was set to watch the children as it turns out he did not have the clearance he needed(he's working on it). They told me he did. I have taken a leave of absence from my job to help while they are working this out. We live in another state and I am staying with a relative a night and going over in the day. It's really draining me. It has been made clear that it's only for so long and they should start looking for daycare. They are convinced it's going to work out and have not been doing that. They rent a house we own and pay the mortgage on. Rent comes in about every other month and the mortgage is around 3x more than the rent. The house is not being well maintained. Not damaged, but not very clean. I probably shouldn't, but I do tons of yard work when I'm there. As far as I know, other bills are paid, but no savings. I want to go back to the house in about a year and they will need to move. I told them this last year and two months later they were pregnant. They are getting married. We are paying for almost the whole wedding. This is too long to get into right now. Even with all this and not really having enough money to pay for their living expenses, wedding, and helping out with other things, I still want to come up with money to get them a house. I have convinced myself that a mortgage would be cheaper than rent. I do recognize that we are not really helping them become self sufficient, but just don't no how to stop. I see my GS happy and he likes the school...the whole thing is kind of heartbreaking and while my husband will make decisions with me, it's only me who has to be the "bad guy" and have the talks and attempt to enforce things. We paid off $27,000 of our own debt and see it starting to come back. Any thoughts or suggestions?