difficult child 1 kicked another child yesterday. He is worried that X will find out. He also had a therapy appointment yesterday. While talking to the therapist he made the comment that if he had grown up with X then X would have killed him by now. When asked why he thought that difficult child 1 said because X is grumpy. I realized that the only vocabulary difficult child 1 has to describe what X does is X's vocabulary that minimizes it. I'm going to have to teach (or get someone else to teach) difficult child 1 what abuse is. This will be a very fine line I am walking. It would be better to be done by the therapist, but I'm not sure they will do a good enough job. Even suggesting it (if I suggest it to the wrong person) would look bad. They would have to get down in the "what does being grumpy look like" "what does being grumpy feel like" and really dig. With difficult child 1 you almost have to know what to look for in the first place to get him to say what actually happened. I'm going to try to talk to one of the therapists. She has been working with my family for years. She knows me. I'm going to get her to read some of the examples of abuse from my journals. Maybe she can guide difficult child 1 in learning his new vocabulary. I hope this doesn't destroy our friendship. Any help or suggests would be very appreciated. Any links on how to explain abuse to a young child (emotionally difficult child 1 is 4 years old) Specifically the abuse cycle and abusers do ..... . Thanks in advance.