difficult child #2 is back to his "old" self. He was doing really well for a while but again lately he's been rude and disrespectful to teachers and students at school, doesn't bring home homework, doesn't complete assignments, doesn't do his daily chores at home etc. He's not a malicious child and doesn't do these things on purpose but he still does them. My husband and I find that the ONLY thing that works with him is punishing him and having him work to earn back privileges. Last week he got grounded because he didn't do an assignment that he had a MONTH to do. He waited until the very last second. His excuse was that he'd rather watch tv and play video games. So therefore television and games are gone until he shows that he's responsible with homework and earns them back. He hasn't been doing chores at home so therefore he has to go up to his room everyday after he does his homework. He can read but that's it. Yesterday I asked him several times to sort his laundry but he "forgot". Today he "forgot" to bring home his math homework for the third time in a week. So here's my dilemma. Tonight at school is "The Showcase of Excellence". It's a display of certain pieces of work from all students in the district from kindergarten to 12th grade. He has one piece on display and really wants to go but since he didn't do his chores yesterday and forgot homework again today on top of everything from last week I don't want to bring him. We are serious about him earning privileges and feel that he won't learn if we give in and take him wherever he wants to go, even if it's a school function. I really am torn though. Should I bring him to see his work and then leave or should I hold my ground and be firm with his punishment. I don't feel like we are overly strict but the only way he "gets it" is when we are extra firm with him and leave no room for discussion. What would you do???