**Edited to remove identifiable information. I didn't want to hijack tictoc's thread about how to dump a friend gracefully but I need some more information, more on how to deal with remaining friendly with my exbff kids. Due to the details which are disclosed here, I will be deleting this post at some point. Here is the sitch: Ex friend has plans of taking back the gfgdd she abandoned over a year ago from the girls dad (exh), where the kid is happy, surrounded by loving grandparents, in a stable environment with a schedule that works for her. When my exf had her the poor kid was up at all hours, always throwing tantrums and completely unstable. I think gfgdd is doing well with her dad and hate to see her uprooted. Now I know this is truly none of my business. Would you call the exh who now has the gfgdd and give him a head's up? Because I truly do not think he is aware of her plans and they have no legal document stating what the custody situation is. I think he should go for full custody but even with that I don't know where he stands. I just hate to see this little peanut fall into the hands of exf and her creepy H. It is so apparent the new H doesn't like kids, or even people, especially people in her life. She has lost ties with almost all her friends and family. So, what would you do? Just stay out of it, or call the exh? I could block my number and deny I ever spoke with him if he ever told anyone.