I'm new here and SO excited to have found this group! I am so relieved that there are parents out there who understand. I am a 40 yo divorced mom of 2. My difficult child (forgive me if I am not quite up to speed on the acronyms -- I've never posted anything anywhere), will be 8 yo next week. He was a 24 week micropreemie and he weighed only 1 lb 9 oz at birth. He is definitely my difficult child. He is very smart academically, well above grade level, attends local university gifted & talented program, etc. But also receives Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT through Special Education at school. Recently started a social skills group because one of his biggest challenges is making friends (unfortunately, it seems that he has alienated the other kids because he crossed out their contribution to a joint story because he didn't like it *sigh*). On Genotropin (growth hormone), but no other medications. He has been dxd (?) with ODD, OC behavior & a Tic disorder. I understand that his compulsion to go against whatever anyone else says is just that -- a compulsion and shouldn't be taken personally. However, some days it's really difficult. He flies into rages which he mostly holds inside (clenches fists, jaws, looks like he's in great pain). My nanny is on the verge of quitting due to his behavior (which, given the demands of my job, would be a disaster). I am learning as I go and have been reasonably successful, but today was not a good day. My so's 11 yo easy child is with me today and there has been nothing but screaming and yelling and crying (on the part of my difficult child). I'm exhausted and my so is at work til late. I read a post earlier that suggested The Explosive Child, which I will definitely get as soon as I can. Does anyone else has a kid who rages the way I described -- it looks like he is going to blow a gasket! What do you do!? Any support will be greatly appreciated.