Hello All!
I'm a first-time mother of a 3y/o boy and am at my wits end with his behavior! He's recently become a completely different child, and most of the changes began when he was enrolled in Pre-K this September. He wasn't perfect before, but I can't even believe this is MY child anymore. He's becoming increasingly nasty, aggressive, disrespectful and just plain...bad. He's about to be thrown out of his school! He talks back to his teachers as well as his father and I. He's hitting other children, a lot. Just last week at recess he went over to a group of second graders and punched four of them in the face, leaving bruises on some. He talks back, tells the teachers I don't care!. His teacher told him he was pushing her buttons and he asked her which ones he's pushing as how many more could he push. He pulled his pants down in the school hallway in front all the kids, teachers, and especially the principal, who is a nun! He's constantly bad in school and at home now. We've taken toys (so many that he's got NONE left), we've done time-out, yelling, NOTHING WORKS. The principal said she thinks he may have an impulse control problem. I took him to the pediatrician, she found that he had allergies and a sinus/respiratory infection, gave me antibiotics and allergy medications. She told me that his behavior could be because he's not feeling well and not getting restful sleep, to let the infection clear up and see how he behaves. Nothing has changed. I'm afraid they'll try to say he's got adhd and try to medicate him, but he's only three so... I just don't know what happened to my super smart, funny, caring and genuinely happy boy! He learned his alphabet, shapes (square, circle, triangle, rectangle, octagon, trapezoid, hexagon, diamond, etc.), colors, counting and to read, all before he could really speak. He's always been way ahead of others how own age and I was concerned that he'd become bored and distracted if the pace was too slow in his classroom. I chose the school I did because the pre-k class had 3,4 & 5 year olds in it and has a real curriculum, not just playtime all day. I was told that each child would be taught at their own pace and none would be held back to level of the child/children that are just beginning their learning. I see now, that this isn't true. They're learning one new letter of the alphabet per week, as well as other things.,, its not a bad class by any means, but I do think he's bored and causes distractions. I wanted him to learn to socialize, since he's never even attended daycare before. Three first two weeks of school he was fine, better than fine, I was hearing about how great it was that he was so advanced, etc. Well, here we are in November and all anyone talks about us his awful behavior. The teacher said to him I keep hearing how smart you are, but I don't see it, you can't even follow directions. I know she's got to be frustrated with him, he's out of control, I know it. Because of his age, he can't even be skipped up a grade or two to see if having more challenging material will alleviate the boredom and hopefully the behavior.
I'm so disheartened, I feel horrible and like I'm failing my son. I don't want his behavior to continue, worsen or overshadow what an amazing, funny, loving and big-hearted little boy he really is.
I don't know what to do anymore!!!!!!!
I'm a first-time mother of a 3y/o boy and am at my wits end with his behavior! He's recently become a completely different child, and most of the changes began when he was enrolled in Pre-K this September. He wasn't perfect before, but I can't even believe this is MY child anymore. He's becoming increasingly nasty, aggressive, disrespectful and just plain...bad. He's about to be thrown out of his school! He talks back to his teachers as well as his father and I. He's hitting other children, a lot. Just last week at recess he went over to a group of second graders and punched four of them in the face, leaving bruises on some. He talks back, tells the teachers I don't care!. His teacher told him he was pushing her buttons and he asked her which ones he's pushing as how many more could he push. He pulled his pants down in the school hallway in front all the kids, teachers, and especially the principal, who is a nun! He's constantly bad in school and at home now. We've taken toys (so many that he's got NONE left), we've done time-out, yelling, NOTHING WORKS. The principal said she thinks he may have an impulse control problem. I took him to the pediatrician, she found that he had allergies and a sinus/respiratory infection, gave me antibiotics and allergy medications. She told me that his behavior could be because he's not feeling well and not getting restful sleep, to let the infection clear up and see how he behaves. Nothing has changed. I'm afraid they'll try to say he's got adhd and try to medicate him, but he's only three so... I just don't know what happened to my super smart, funny, caring and genuinely happy boy! He learned his alphabet, shapes (square, circle, triangle, rectangle, octagon, trapezoid, hexagon, diamond, etc.), colors, counting and to read, all before he could really speak. He's always been way ahead of others how own age and I was concerned that he'd become bored and distracted if the pace was too slow in his classroom. I chose the school I did because the pre-k class had 3,4 & 5 year olds in it and has a real curriculum, not just playtime all day. I was told that each child would be taught at their own pace and none would be held back to level of the child/children that are just beginning their learning. I see now, that this isn't true. They're learning one new letter of the alphabet per week, as well as other things.,, its not a bad class by any means, but I do think he's bored and causes distractions. I wanted him to learn to socialize, since he's never even attended daycare before. Three first two weeks of school he was fine, better than fine, I was hearing about how great it was that he was so advanced, etc. Well, here we are in November and all anyone talks about us his awful behavior. The teacher said to him I keep hearing how smart you are, but I don't see it, you can't even follow directions. I know she's got to be frustrated with him, he's out of control, I know it. Because of his age, he can't even be skipped up a grade or two to see if having more challenging material will alleviate the boredom and hopefully the behavior.
I'm so disheartened, I feel horrible and like I'm failing my son. I don't want his behavior to continue, worsen or overshadow what an amazing, funny, loving and big-hearted little boy he really is.
I don't know what to do anymore!!!!!!!