I am thankful like each of you were, to find this site. We have exhausted all our means of dealing with our difficult child children. We need some fresh ideas and approaches. This site looks very encouraging and helpful. I have already ordered the Expolsive Child book. Our daughter, age 4, when she isn't being just absolute adorable can be very explosive. Yelling, screaming kicking, hitting -- none of the traditional methods of discipline and redirect seem to work. We have tried time out, loss of priviledges, natural consequences, spankings nothing seems to work. Her tantrums/melt downs just continually escaluate as she demands her way. She is truly a Dr. Jeykll and Mr. Hyde. Any suggestions or ideas on how to manage this melt downs.