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Just wanted to say "hi" and give some info on me. I come here often to lurk. I derive some comfort knowing I am not alone. I mistakenly thought things would get better with my 19 year old difficult child once she graduated from high school. I thought wrong. She's completely out of control and I am in the process of evicting her from my home. She's to be out by Jan 31. She met a 20 year old boy difficult child online and has been staying with him off and on. This began in Sept. He lives in another state, with his parents! They paid for her bus ticket to come to their home twice and stay with them, in his room, sleeping with their son. What kind of parents do this? Apparently according to my difficult child, her difficult child boyfriend, age 20, runs the household over there and she is welcome to stay as long as she likes. But, I also heard that his mother would not allow her to use their address as her residence when she went to try and get a state ID. Up until now, she thought she didn't need any ID and she could go around lying about her age and name. Then she found out she couldn't go see a movie or sign up for state aide or SSI without some identification other than her birth certificate and social sec card.
She wants to leave all her stuff here and I want it out. She hoards and hoards and has almost filled a third of my home with her stuff. She won't donate or sell any of it and she fully intends to keep it - all of it. I don't think it will fit into one large storage unit.
difficult child plans on living off of SSI, which she has yet to file for (about $600 month). She assumes she will get it and it won't take long despite everyone telling her differently. She has not seen a psychiatrist or taken any medicine in over 5 years. She refused. She was stuck in sp ed school for the last 5 years until graduating and I think they let her go to be rid of her. She hates rules. She is extremely immature and acts like a 10 year old. The difficult child boyfriend she has chosen to be with is not much better but he's already collecting SSI. Her dream is to get a place with him and live happily ever after. They've been having sex since the day she met him. His parents allowed it to happen by paying for a motel room for them. They seem to condone this relationship. So they can take her in and all her stuff as far as I am concerned. I refuse to speak to parents who would condone behavior like that. Her father (my ex) spoke to them and left a poor impression. All he wanted to talk to them about was birth control according to difficult child.
We are now less than 7 days till eviction and she's not arranged to get her things. She has said she will sue me if I touch any of her stuff. She doesn't even have a key to my home.
I've read several threads on here concerning eviction and kicking difficult children out but most of them end without saying what happened. Did they have to get a sheriff to physically move them out? Did sheriffs pack up their stuff and put it to the curb? My difficult child asked me if I would accept $50 a month to store her things until spring and I said no! She claims her boyfriend father would pay it. She also said something to my sister about a bike I bought belonging to her and she planned on taking it. I can tell she's going to be a real difficult child while packing up her belongings. I can't get her and her hoard out of here fast enough. I have been like a prisoner in my own home because of her and have been waiting until she was old enough and out of school so I could get my house and my life back in order. She knows this. She calls me all kinds of names and does terrible things, makes threats against my life then says, "You have no proof, you can't do anything!, I'll do and say whatever I want!"
What happens if she doesn't come to get her things by the 31st and further avoids getting a court notice? I can see her defiantly refusing to deal with this by simply not complying with the eviction order.
She was diagnosed 5 years ago with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified also ADHD, ODD, BIPOLAR. She took every medication that existed and was hospitalized twice. She has refused medications and psychiatrist for over 5 years since then without much improvement. She dresses and acts like a 10 year old then dresses up like a prostitute and goes back and forth between the two. She goes out of her way to project the "****" image online and shes attracted to young boys (14, 15 years old) despite her 20 year old boyfriend. The only thing she hasn't tried is illegal drugs but I figure that's on her list for later.
I don't want to live with her. She's like a leach and she tries to manipulate and control everyone and takes advantage of people by lying and putting on helpless acts. She boasts to her little teenage friends that she's never so much as washed a dish or cleaned a toilet. Her room is a disaster, like an episode of Hoarders. She thinks it's funny - laughs about it. I forbid her to go anywhere until her room was cleaned so she stayed home and then when she turned 18 she decided she didn't have to do anything I asked anymore. She stays up all night and sleeps all day, either playing games, on the internet or phone. She would go over to friends houses to get online and on a phone and then she used her birthday money to buy a phone when hers was taken away. She's got loads of junk in my basement, too and it's taking over the downstairs.
I am not in the best of health myself and I feel trapped here until her stuff is gone and she legally can't come into my home. I have locks on every door but the bathroom and her bedroom. I lock doors behind me when she is here and stay locked in my room. That's how much I distrust her.
Any advice would be appreciated.
She wants to leave all her stuff here and I want it out. She hoards and hoards and has almost filled a third of my home with her stuff. She won't donate or sell any of it and she fully intends to keep it - all of it. I don't think it will fit into one large storage unit.
difficult child plans on living off of SSI, which she has yet to file for (about $600 month). She assumes she will get it and it won't take long despite everyone telling her differently. She has not seen a psychiatrist or taken any medicine in over 5 years. She refused. She was stuck in sp ed school for the last 5 years until graduating and I think they let her go to be rid of her. She hates rules. She is extremely immature and acts like a 10 year old. The difficult child boyfriend she has chosen to be with is not much better but he's already collecting SSI. Her dream is to get a place with him and live happily ever after. They've been having sex since the day she met him. His parents allowed it to happen by paying for a motel room for them. They seem to condone this relationship. So they can take her in and all her stuff as far as I am concerned. I refuse to speak to parents who would condone behavior like that. Her father (my ex) spoke to them and left a poor impression. All he wanted to talk to them about was birth control according to difficult child.
We are now less than 7 days till eviction and she's not arranged to get her things. She has said she will sue me if I touch any of her stuff. She doesn't even have a key to my home.
I've read several threads on here concerning eviction and kicking difficult children out but most of them end without saying what happened. Did they have to get a sheriff to physically move them out? Did sheriffs pack up their stuff and put it to the curb? My difficult child asked me if I would accept $50 a month to store her things until spring and I said no! She claims her boyfriend father would pay it. She also said something to my sister about a bike I bought belonging to her and she planned on taking it. I can tell she's going to be a real difficult child while packing up her belongings. I can't get her and her hoard out of here fast enough. I have been like a prisoner in my own home because of her and have been waiting until she was old enough and out of school so I could get my house and my life back in order. She knows this. She calls me all kinds of names and does terrible things, makes threats against my life then says, "You have no proof, you can't do anything!, I'll do and say whatever I want!"
What happens if she doesn't come to get her things by the 31st and further avoids getting a court notice? I can see her defiantly refusing to deal with this by simply not complying with the eviction order.
She was diagnosed 5 years ago with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified also ADHD, ODD, BIPOLAR. She took every medication that existed and was hospitalized twice. She has refused medications and psychiatrist for over 5 years since then without much improvement. She dresses and acts like a 10 year old then dresses up like a prostitute and goes back and forth between the two. She goes out of her way to project the "****" image online and shes attracted to young boys (14, 15 years old) despite her 20 year old boyfriend. The only thing she hasn't tried is illegal drugs but I figure that's on her list for later.
I don't want to live with her. She's like a leach and she tries to manipulate and control everyone and takes advantage of people by lying and putting on helpless acts. She boasts to her little teenage friends that she's never so much as washed a dish or cleaned a toilet. Her room is a disaster, like an episode of Hoarders. She thinks it's funny - laughs about it. I forbid her to go anywhere until her room was cleaned so she stayed home and then when she turned 18 she decided she didn't have to do anything I asked anymore. She stays up all night and sleeps all day, either playing games, on the internet or phone. She would go over to friends houses to get online and on a phone and then she used her birthday money to buy a phone when hers was taken away. She's got loads of junk in my basement, too and it's taking over the downstairs.
I am not in the best of health myself and I feel trapped here until her stuff is gone and she legally can't come into my home. I have locks on every door but the bathroom and her bedroom. I lock doors behind me when she is here and stay locked in my room. That's how much I distrust her.
Any advice would be appreciated.
