My 5 1/2 year old is going through testing soon, so I don't know exactly what I'm dealing with...nevertheless I have tried EVERYTHING under the sun in an attempt to yield cooperation to no avail. Beginning from birth I clung to Babywise, Happiest Baby on the Block and later Happiest Toddler on the Block, Love and Logic, 123 Magic, time outs, spanking, paddling, yelling, talking quietly, ignoring, star charts, I even tried to do the exact same reward system the school used...none of the mentioned methods worked consistently. My child's explosive behavior came bursting through any lull or break we had from her impulsive, defiant behavior. Her biggest struggle is attachment lately to me as she just began kindergarten. I am now wrecked with guilt thinking I didn't give her enough of my attention, love and time during her pre-school years. I just don't know how it could be possible though because I am exhausted. I give give give my all to her and it is never enough attention, hugs, love, and when I say it is enough she explodes. I really don't get it. I know there is such a thing as negative attachment, which sounds cruel to me because I feel like I have given her my all, but am now second guessing myself!!!!! Any suggestions, comments, tidbits???