nerfherder
Active Member
Hi!
This will be brief as I can, I have to get out and check on a couple very pregnant goats.
I am exploring guardianship filing for my 17y3m daughter. She is autistic, and behavior-challenged. Food and eating obsessions, mostly regarding sweet foods and anything in the class of foods from which she is restricted. Her diet (as is most of the household where I live) is paleo/low carb, gluten-free, casein-free. She is not on any medications, DEX and I decided long ago that behavioral mod through chemistry is a last resort, and I'm about there now.
She is on SSI, and if we didn't live and rent on a farm in a small town, we'd be screwed financially too.
I made sure to include "guardianship" in the topic, as in the future I (and other parents) may need to refer to anything shared through forum search.
Those of you who have done the paperwork - successfully or not - what bumps or snags did you run into? If you had an ex who was compliant and/or supportive of your decisions, were there still legal breakages in the process?
She's been diagnosed developmentally disabled since about 22 months, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)/not otherwise specified since age 3, currently identified as Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)/Autism through the school district. I've been pretty fortunate overall with schools and schooling, the only snags came from the brief few months we lived in Irvine, CA which had at the time one of the WORST records of dealing with Autism in an affluent area I'd ever heard.
She has known behavioral issues in her IEP, the school Special Education department does a fantastic job of keeping everything everything in her day running smoothly. Academically about 1st through 4th grade depending, emotionally about age 4.
I however am having frequent quiet melt-downs due to paperwork stress and fears, that oh so special feeling of shame - I was taught to be as self-reliant and independent as possible, but with a child who will need Government Support Forever, sometimes it feels like a knife in my gut. The Medicaid paperwork continues to sit in my carry-along, along with a copy of last year's Sheriff's Report (I don't go out with her without it) that confirmed that we are not abusive, but she lives in a fantasy world where she is Magneto's princess daughter of the Island of Jenosha and we are keeping her from her true heritage of cookies, candy, pizza, and her apartment in an orchard full of all the fruits she's not allowed to eat unrestrictedly - and blue hair dye.
Advice on guardianship filing is a huge plus, if you can. Also reminding me that I am not a failure for having a child that doesn't contribute to society.
Thank you.
This will be brief as I can, I have to get out and check on a couple very pregnant goats.
I am exploring guardianship filing for my 17y3m daughter. She is autistic, and behavior-challenged. Food and eating obsessions, mostly regarding sweet foods and anything in the class of foods from which she is restricted. Her diet (as is most of the household where I live) is paleo/low carb, gluten-free, casein-free. She is not on any medications, DEX and I decided long ago that behavioral mod through chemistry is a last resort, and I'm about there now.
She is on SSI, and if we didn't live and rent on a farm in a small town, we'd be screwed financially too.
I made sure to include "guardianship" in the topic, as in the future I (and other parents) may need to refer to anything shared through forum search.
Those of you who have done the paperwork - successfully or not - what bumps or snags did you run into? If you had an ex who was compliant and/or supportive of your decisions, were there still legal breakages in the process?
She's been diagnosed developmentally disabled since about 22 months, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)/not otherwise specified since age 3, currently identified as Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)/Autism through the school district. I've been pretty fortunate overall with schools and schooling, the only snags came from the brief few months we lived in Irvine, CA which had at the time one of the WORST records of dealing with Autism in an affluent area I'd ever heard.
She has known behavioral issues in her IEP, the school Special Education department does a fantastic job of keeping everything everything in her day running smoothly. Academically about 1st through 4th grade depending, emotionally about age 4.
I however am having frequent quiet melt-downs due to paperwork stress and fears, that oh so special feeling of shame - I was taught to be as self-reliant and independent as possible, but with a child who will need Government Support Forever, sometimes it feels like a knife in my gut. The Medicaid paperwork continues to sit in my carry-along, along with a copy of last year's Sheriff's Report (I don't go out with her without it) that confirmed that we are not abusive, but she lives in a fantasy world where she is Magneto's princess daughter of the Island of Jenosha and we are keeping her from her true heritage of cookies, candy, pizza, and her apartment in an orchard full of all the fruits she's not allowed to eat unrestrictedly - and blue hair dye.
Advice on guardianship filing is a huge plus, if you can. Also reminding me that I am not a failure for having a child that doesn't contribute to society.
Thank you.