OMG! Just got back from new psychiatrist. Drove 2 1/2 hours to get there. We changed because I felt we were at a point where we needed to change. difficult child couldn't stand the one we've had for the last 4 years anymore. He said she was stuck up and she was always fussing at him. I also felt like a scolded child going to her office. We've had a rough year at times and a good year at times. The bad incidents started in December when he decided to be vengeful with my aunt and uncle. He through an egg at their house and banged on their front door at night which ended with broken glass. As soon as I found out I brought him over there to face the music and punished him for the whole Christmas holidays. We went back to psychiatrist, she increased the Lamictal and started him on Risperdal and sent us to a new and wonderful counsellor. Things got better, but a few minor stunts did occur. Me and husband have gotten better with consequences. We do follow with Dr. Green's baskets (The Explosive Child) and we're in a place where we can give consequences and get good results even though they may not be as severe as with other kids--they tend to work well. But what happened was our new counsellor got it out of difficult child that he had experimented with drugs (pot, Lortab once, and drank some lemon drink at school with Xanax in it-supposedly without his knowledge--???). Well the counsellor had sworn to difficult child that he'd never tell, but when he couldn't get difficult child to admit to husband and I, he told which ended up with difficult child in car crying and vowing NEVER to go back and trust. I really hate this because he is a great and caring man. Anyway, we were horrified to find out about this experimentation and have drug tested him twice now-both neg. psychiatrist called upon hearing about all this and wanted to know if I had a boarding school lined up for next year and why I hadn't. I told her I still felt like I could parent my child myself and until I felt otherwise I would continue to do so. Well, she set up this appointment with her and counsellor which difficult child was becoming unglued about and I could have never got him in the car to go to and I really did not want to go either. So I felt like a change needed to take place. Don't misunderstand. I don't want anyone to kiss up to me or difficult child. But what about Dr. Green's method of the baskets? My psychiatrist wants me to rule with an iron fist, but gives me a book to read on the nurtured heart approach??? Well, we trekked out today to new psychiatrist. He was confrontational with difficult child from the get go and in such a sarcastic way. He would call my ex psychiatrist by her first name when he would refer to her like they were pals and had been communicating with her. I thought difficult child would storm out. He didn't. Then I thought he was going to go into a full meltdown right there. He didn't. Thank God!! But of course he says he will never ever go again. I expect them to have no tolerance for behaviors like disrespect for teachers--but do you give disrespect and sarcasm when you're telling difficult children this. I cried silently to myself on the way home and truly do not know what to do now???!!!!