Wow - so cool to find this place. I already don't feel so alone and I have just registered. We are the proud parents of a wonderful 9yo boy that I will call Goose on this forum. Our son has ODD/ADD I am the sister of an ODD adult. My son's behavior manifested in Kindergarten. He has been kicked out of a private K, suspended 2.5 days from public K, and most recently been suspended 6 days and served 15 days of a 30 day sentence at the Alternative Education Placement Center (he got out for good behavior). We have finally convinced our school district that ODD is real and we have finally been granted a meeting to work on an education plan for him...previous to that, we were told 504s don't apply to ODD. I am dealing with an AP that loves my son and is truly trying to help. I have a P that seems to think we aren't doing enough. We have been told to provide the school with info on ODD as the district has limited information and understanding of what ODD. I am sure I am not the first one here that can say that most people look at me as if I were on crack when I try and explain ODD. My son is a wonderful person...he makes us laugh, he makes us cry...and we often feel powerless to help. His ODD is prevelent at school; less so at home. I am looking for suggestions on how to explain to teachers that he isn't doing this because he wants to. I am looking for ways to teach my son that he can ask for help and that it is OK to need it. I am looking for someone to help me not go crazy with all of this. 2nd grade was awesome. He had a teacher who could see things start and redirect him EVERY time...he didn't go to the office EVER in 2nd grade. I have gone to both psychologists and psychiatrists and both have asked me the same thing "what do you want me to do?" -- I want someone to help me understand what to do!!! And so far, no one has helped us much. We have control at home...there is no control at school. Goose is on 20mg Adderall and 15mg. generic Remeron. ~1 mth ago he had been on Concerta and we have seen some improvement with the Adderall. He has great days, then really BAD days. Today is a bad day. I have already had one call from the Principal. Thank you for your time.