sls0308
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I just wanted to start off with how glad I am to have found this place. Now I know I am not alone and not totally going crazy.
My difficult child is 16 now and I am not sure what at this point I am going to do with him. He has always been my "hyper" one and was diagnosed with ADHD in Elem. School. He has always been the defiant one. I have always believed that it was the ADHD. But slowly over the last couple of years (more so the last 12 months), His agression has accelerated, defiance is overwhelming, he is stealing & lying, running away, drugs & alcohol and sex. He even broke into my father in law home. Over the last couple of months he has pretty much been in and out of jail. Finally 2 weeks ago we had him committed to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), that finally diagnosed him with a "conduct disorder". They made me see that all the behavior that I & his doctors had passed off as ADHD was was ADHD but with ODD along with it.
I feel so alone right now because my husband is his step-father and he is just about given up on him and to top it off the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) also stated that he also has "Homicidal Tenadancies". He has made treats to husband and my 15 y/o easy child. Luckily he didn't mention my 6 y/o easy child's (B/G twins).
Well now here is the guilt part. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) could not hold him on the "Conduct Disorder" or apparently the "Homicidal Tendancies". Their suggestion was to have him placed back in the hall. I am not sure Jail is what he needs either. I am so new to this that I am not sure what to think. All they did was give him antidepressants and his ADD medications and want him locked up.
Well since he made threats to the family, he is back in jail, but I am not sure for how long or what.
I know he needs help, we all do, but I am just not sure what to do for him at this point...I feel a little lost. And really it is taking its toll on me. I am a little "shell-shocked" right now and emotionally battered.
Any help or thoughts would be greatly appriciated.
Thanks
Stef
My difficult child is 16 now and I am not sure what at this point I am going to do with him. He has always been my "hyper" one and was diagnosed with ADHD in Elem. School. He has always been the defiant one. I have always believed that it was the ADHD. But slowly over the last couple of years (more so the last 12 months), His agression has accelerated, defiance is overwhelming, he is stealing & lying, running away, drugs & alcohol and sex. He even broke into my father in law home. Over the last couple of months he has pretty much been in and out of jail. Finally 2 weeks ago we had him committed to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), that finally diagnosed him with a "conduct disorder". They made me see that all the behavior that I & his doctors had passed off as ADHD was was ADHD but with ODD along with it.
I feel so alone right now because my husband is his step-father and he is just about given up on him and to top it off the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) also stated that he also has "Homicidal Tenadancies". He has made treats to husband and my 15 y/o easy child. Luckily he didn't mention my 6 y/o easy child's (B/G twins).
Well now here is the guilt part. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) could not hold him on the "Conduct Disorder" or apparently the "Homicidal Tendancies". Their suggestion was to have him placed back in the hall. I am not sure Jail is what he needs either. I am so new to this that I am not sure what to think. All they did was give him antidepressants and his ADD medications and want him locked up.
Well since he made threats to the family, he is back in jail, but I am not sure for how long or what.
I know he needs help, we all do, but I am just not sure what to do for him at this point...I feel a little lost. And really it is taking its toll on me. I am a little "shell-shocked" right now and emotionally battered.
Any help or thoughts would be greatly appriciated.
Thanks
Stef