Hi! I am so thrilled that I somehow found this forum!! In a nutshell, we have 5 kids. The oldest 4 biological, the youngest adopted. Diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). He was adopted at 4 months, he's now 6. We are completely and utterly overwhelmed with his behavior. I'm sure he's got ODD. He fits all the symptoms. Not helping is the fact that we live in a rural area and nobody has dealt with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), much less ODD. I get calls from the kindergarten teacher telling me she just doesn't know what to do with him. Funny, I thought it was her job to figure out what to do with him. The child study team is really nice, but also pretty clueless. I feel like a complete failure most of the time. I'm so frustrated because I can't even see a pattern or figure out what his triggers are. Sometimes his triggers change. It's been so uplifting reading the threads and seeing that I'm not the only one.