Ok I am totally new to this. And seriously, I think I am going crazy! lol My difficult child was diagnosis as ODD just yesterday, and finally things are starting to make sense. We couldn't figure out why she was hitting kids at school, and picking on my easy child, lying about anything.... I was really starting to think that her behavior was somehow my fault. (I recently left my dex while she was living with her grandmother, and when she came home there was a new man, a new baby on the way, a move, and a new school.) But now I know different. At least now I know that her constant behavior issues have a real cause, this is somewhat helping me today when trying to deal with her..but my main concern is she knows exactly how to push my buttons. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on keeping your cool? Weblinks, books, anything would be really helpful! Also I have read that new parenting approaches can be helpful, but I am not sure where to look...I am soooooooo glad I found this site late last night! Thank you all in advance!