thekidsmademedoit
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Hi everyone!
I'm new here! My name is Becky and I'm 23. I have 2 kids. Mckenzie will be 6 this month and Tyler will be 3 in July. My kid's father and I live together and have been together for almost 8 years. He works full time as an electrician and makes good money, but somehow the bank account is always over-drawn and bills are past due. I stay at home with the kids and since Sept 06 I've been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Interstitial Cystitis, both chronic, painful and incurable! Trying to cope with this ontop of everything else. I also suffer from Depression, Anxiety and Insomnnia. This is going to be long bc I'm absolutly desperate!!!! I hope these posts don't have word limits! lol
I love my kids to death but I'm at a loss! I can't take it anymore with my ds. I've been saying, practicly since the kid was born, that there was something wrong with him. He is such an angry obnoxious child. He's just plain old nasty aaaaaallllll the time! throws fits for no apparent reason or if there is a reason its not a very good one. a simple "no" or "hold on a min." or "get down" results in the ultimate temper tantrum. Throws himself on the floor, kicks, screams at the TOP of his lungs, cries hits, bites and throws things. Not to mention the fact that he holds his breath till he turns purple! Even when he was an infant ppl told me all the time, "he's such an angry baby!"
He pretends to be nice to the cats only in the next split second he is either pulling a tail or fur, kicking or hitting or is squishing or laying on top of them. and they really hurt him!! Theyve bitten and scratched him to the point where it almost required stitches several times and the wounds have gotton infected despite the proper cleaning and care. I dont blame them though!
He absolutly terrorizes his sister! Walks up to her and smacks her repeatedly in the face or throws things at her or walks up to her when shes playing on the floor or even the table and just stomps on her things or rips her books, pulls her hair, tells her to "go to your room!" He is just relentless with her to the point that she is constantly crying and says she wishes that God had given her a different brother and asks if we really would get in trouble if we gave him away! lol funny...but not really! Thats not the way I pictured my kids growing up and loving eachother. She refuses to hit him back (which I know isnt right but Ive gotton to the point that I tell her to) despite his relentless tormenting and intaginizing.
Then there's the constant energy and the go-go-go! ALWAYS on the move! Crawled and climbed at 5 months but didnt walk alone untill he was almost 14 months. He will literally just run in circles like hes going to burn a hole in the carpet! He climbs on EVERYTHING!!!! the table, counters, chairs, his high chair, even the doors! Every where I've ever gone with him, I have at LEAST 1 person come up to me and say, "My God! You must be so tired!" I've attempted to take them to the park or for walks but I can't even do that. I can't watch Kenzie when I'm chasing after thank you bc he doesnt want to stay in the play ground-he just wants to run! He doesn't get the fact that you have have to SIT to go down the slide or that you can't just walk off the edge of the play equipment! If I'm not RIGHT there he would just walk right off! With all my attention on him I cant watch my daughter! And it's not fair to her!
I try my hardest not to go ANYWHERE by myself with him if possible. Not even to the store bc if he sees something he wants and can't have it, all hell breaks loose! He will continue to scream and scream to the point that i just want to beat him! ppl stare and i dont even wanna THINK about what THEY'RE thinking! I just can't do it! At the end of the trip theres always SOMETHING opened before we get to the register. If i dont open it, he will reach into the cart himself while im looking on the shelves and open it. He is that quick! I don't like to take him to pick my daughter up from school bc God forbid we have to wait 30 seconds for her to come out! He throws ANOTHER fit! Why, I don't know bc he will just be torturing her in the next 5 min.
Not to mention the fact that I can't get the kid to even sit down long enough to eat anything. He's 2 1/2 ans weighs about 26lbs. and still fits into some 12 month clothes and 6-9 month onsies. Always been on the low end of the percentiles and Dr.s aren't worried. Everything he eats is stuff like crackers or spoonfuls of peanut butter are his favorite....anything he can take on the go. And he won't touch anything that is mooshy at all! He has a texture issue. Like oranges, oatmeal, applesauce, green beans, peas, or even fruit snacks or gummies! Weird kid! lol
He is so defiant and won't listen to a darn word I say! Everything is "NO!" and "I don't wanna!" just to name a couple! Just plain old nasty! Everything is a fight! I put him in his room for time outs and after a few min. he comes out and he will appologize to and for whatever he did. But not more than 5 min. later he's back to doing the same thing or something different that he KNOWS he shouldn't. He's not stupid! He does know right from wrong and understands the rules. Testing limits and boundaries, yes, but he DOES know them! But the tantrums are getting out of control! I am currently on Xanex and Zoloft bc of him! Bc I can't handle him! I often think about giving him up, although I could NEVER do that, I think about what life was like before him and how much easier it would be without him! I feel like a terrible mother! How could I say I love my child but have those thoughts and feelings towards him?! What kind of mother does that?! And I know I show favoritism to my daughter. She's just sooooo much easier and I've never experienced ANYTHING remotely close to his behavior! She's so much easier to love.
Every morning he is up at the crack of dawn, this morning he's been up since 3:00am and it is now 7:30am and he JUST fell back to sleep on the couch! When I go inot his room in the am EVERYTHING is torn a part! All the clothes from the dressers, toys dumped out-just a disaster! Not to mention the fact that he is very destructive and break his toys! Don;t ask me how bc some of the things he breaks, I couldn't even break them!
I've tried talking to his Pedi but every single time-and he's witnessed a few minor melt-downs, he just says it's normal behavior and some kids are tougher than others. Says I have to wait untill he's older to have him evaluated for any kind of disorder. Do I really?! Or can he be diagnosed NOW?! I've been reading about ODD and it describes him to a T!!
Anyways, I'm sure there's tons more to write about him. I could go on for days! Weeks even! But as it stands this post is waaaaaay too long already and ppl will probly not even bother to read! Sorry, I just have a lot on my mind! Next ones won't be so long! lol
Thanks to anyone who bothers to read! Any questions, comments, advice, critisism, tips, information, vacations, donations (just kidding!) is welcome and very much appreciated! Any kind of help! I hope to find some answers, support, and some friends here as I will try to offer the same! Thanks again and I hope to hear from anyone soon!
Hugs-n-Stuff,
Becky
I'm new here! My name is Becky and I'm 23. I have 2 kids. Mckenzie will be 6 this month and Tyler will be 3 in July. My kid's father and I live together and have been together for almost 8 years. He works full time as an electrician and makes good money, but somehow the bank account is always over-drawn and bills are past due. I stay at home with the kids and since Sept 06 I've been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Interstitial Cystitis, both chronic, painful and incurable! Trying to cope with this ontop of everything else. I also suffer from Depression, Anxiety and Insomnnia. This is going to be long bc I'm absolutly desperate!!!! I hope these posts don't have word limits! lol
I love my kids to death but I'm at a loss! I can't take it anymore with my ds. I've been saying, practicly since the kid was born, that there was something wrong with him. He is such an angry obnoxious child. He's just plain old nasty aaaaaallllll the time! throws fits for no apparent reason or if there is a reason its not a very good one. a simple "no" or "hold on a min." or "get down" results in the ultimate temper tantrum. Throws himself on the floor, kicks, screams at the TOP of his lungs, cries hits, bites and throws things. Not to mention the fact that he holds his breath till he turns purple! Even when he was an infant ppl told me all the time, "he's such an angry baby!"
He pretends to be nice to the cats only in the next split second he is either pulling a tail or fur, kicking or hitting or is squishing or laying on top of them. and they really hurt him!! Theyve bitten and scratched him to the point where it almost required stitches several times and the wounds have gotton infected despite the proper cleaning and care. I dont blame them though!
He absolutly terrorizes his sister! Walks up to her and smacks her repeatedly in the face or throws things at her or walks up to her when shes playing on the floor or even the table and just stomps on her things or rips her books, pulls her hair, tells her to "go to your room!" He is just relentless with her to the point that she is constantly crying and says she wishes that God had given her a different brother and asks if we really would get in trouble if we gave him away! lol funny...but not really! Thats not the way I pictured my kids growing up and loving eachother. She refuses to hit him back (which I know isnt right but Ive gotton to the point that I tell her to) despite his relentless tormenting and intaginizing.
Then there's the constant energy and the go-go-go! ALWAYS on the move! Crawled and climbed at 5 months but didnt walk alone untill he was almost 14 months. He will literally just run in circles like hes going to burn a hole in the carpet! He climbs on EVERYTHING!!!! the table, counters, chairs, his high chair, even the doors! Every where I've ever gone with him, I have at LEAST 1 person come up to me and say, "My God! You must be so tired!" I've attempted to take them to the park or for walks but I can't even do that. I can't watch Kenzie when I'm chasing after thank you bc he doesnt want to stay in the play ground-he just wants to run! He doesn't get the fact that you have have to SIT to go down the slide or that you can't just walk off the edge of the play equipment! If I'm not RIGHT there he would just walk right off! With all my attention on him I cant watch my daughter! And it's not fair to her!
I try my hardest not to go ANYWHERE by myself with him if possible. Not even to the store bc if he sees something he wants and can't have it, all hell breaks loose! He will continue to scream and scream to the point that i just want to beat him! ppl stare and i dont even wanna THINK about what THEY'RE thinking! I just can't do it! At the end of the trip theres always SOMETHING opened before we get to the register. If i dont open it, he will reach into the cart himself while im looking on the shelves and open it. He is that quick! I don't like to take him to pick my daughter up from school bc God forbid we have to wait 30 seconds for her to come out! He throws ANOTHER fit! Why, I don't know bc he will just be torturing her in the next 5 min.
Not to mention the fact that I can't get the kid to even sit down long enough to eat anything. He's 2 1/2 ans weighs about 26lbs. and still fits into some 12 month clothes and 6-9 month onsies. Always been on the low end of the percentiles and Dr.s aren't worried. Everything he eats is stuff like crackers or spoonfuls of peanut butter are his favorite....anything he can take on the go. And he won't touch anything that is mooshy at all! He has a texture issue. Like oranges, oatmeal, applesauce, green beans, peas, or even fruit snacks or gummies! Weird kid! lol
He is so defiant and won't listen to a darn word I say! Everything is "NO!" and "I don't wanna!" just to name a couple! Just plain old nasty! Everything is a fight! I put him in his room for time outs and after a few min. he comes out and he will appologize to and for whatever he did. But not more than 5 min. later he's back to doing the same thing or something different that he KNOWS he shouldn't. He's not stupid! He does know right from wrong and understands the rules. Testing limits and boundaries, yes, but he DOES know them! But the tantrums are getting out of control! I am currently on Xanex and Zoloft bc of him! Bc I can't handle him! I often think about giving him up, although I could NEVER do that, I think about what life was like before him and how much easier it would be without him! I feel like a terrible mother! How could I say I love my child but have those thoughts and feelings towards him?! What kind of mother does that?! And I know I show favoritism to my daughter. She's just sooooo much easier and I've never experienced ANYTHING remotely close to his behavior! She's so much easier to love.
Every morning he is up at the crack of dawn, this morning he's been up since 3:00am and it is now 7:30am and he JUST fell back to sleep on the couch! When I go inot his room in the am EVERYTHING is torn a part! All the clothes from the dressers, toys dumped out-just a disaster! Not to mention the fact that he is very destructive and break his toys! Don;t ask me how bc some of the things he breaks, I couldn't even break them!
I've tried talking to his Pedi but every single time-and he's witnessed a few minor melt-downs, he just says it's normal behavior and some kids are tougher than others. Says I have to wait untill he's older to have him evaluated for any kind of disorder. Do I really?! Or can he be diagnosed NOW?! I've been reading about ODD and it describes him to a T!!
Anyways, I'm sure there's tons more to write about him. I could go on for days! Weeks even! But as it stands this post is waaaaaay too long already and ppl will probly not even bother to read! Sorry, I just have a lot on my mind! Next ones won't be so long! lol
Thanks to anyone who bothers to read! Any questions, comments, advice, critisism, tips, information, vacations, donations (just kidding!) is welcome and very much appreciated! Any kind of help! I hope to find some answers, support, and some friends here as I will try to offer the same! Thanks again and I hope to hear from anyone soon!
Hugs-n-Stuff,
Becky