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Hi, I'm Paula and I am new here. Glad that I found you all. My son is 4. Will be 5 in April. He is diagnosed with PDDNOS and Disruptive Behavior Disorder. He is in an IU preschool three days a week and in a regular daycare 2 days a week. He used to play all by himself with puzzles or spinning wheels on a car or memorizing every character in a tv show. Now, all he wants to do is play on his computer. He already knows how to download stuff, reboot it and so much more. The problem comes when we try to limit him, we get nothing but tantrums for a long....long....long time period. And now he's learned to throw this at me...."well, I don't like you". I just smile and say, "well, that's too bad because I really like you". He's getting so much better with his socialization skills since we put him in the regular daycare setting. It's amazing. But, we are having NO LUCK at all with potty training. He cries when he sees the "big boy underwear" come out. He tantrums and says, "NO, I WANT MY PULL-UPS". I put the underwear on him and he'll hold it all day while he's away and as soon as he walks in the house, I put him on the potty and he'll sit there and hold it in and when he puts his pants back on...he pees in them. NOTE...the banging my head avatar. That's me.
Now...on to my princess difficult child. She is 6 and has anxiety disorder. When she's in her tantrums, she's like the exorcist. Her eyes are huge, her face is blood red with veins sticking out. She sweats and shakes and you'd swear her head is going to start spinning. When she's like that, she doesn't hear anything that we say. If we were upset with her for talking back, she will obsess about that over and over and then make things up until she obsessively crying about things like how will she see me when she gets married, and so on and so on. It's so frustrating. She says stuff like, "you hate me, you're always so mean to me, you don't want to be my friend, I don't want to go to school, the kids hate me, I hate the lunch there, you won't be there to pick me up today, you won't give me any dinner, you hate me (again and again), I don't know how to tie my shoes, I don't know what I'm going to do next Thursday, you were mean to me two years ago when you didn't let me go to Katie's birthday party, where will I go to college, when I get married how will I find you, do you promise, do you promise, do you promise".
I don't know how to calm her down when she's like this. She gets so exhaused that she usually falls asleep afterward.
She cannot stop talking. She will ask me the same questions over and over again during the day, just so that she can talk. I love her so much and I feel like such a horrible mother when I say that she drives me nuts sometimes. (ok...most of the time)I'll even ask her to try to stop talking for 10 minutes and maybe read a book or color a page or practice her writing, and she'll get that exorcist look and try so hard not to talk or whine or cry. It's terrible.
She has had a history of medical problems since birth and now all she's having all of these emotional problems.
They will be starting their wraparound services in a couple of weeks. I sure hope that helps because at this point, I'm about as stretched as I can get.
Anyone have any ideas of how to calm her down when she's like that? And any potty training ideas for my son? I'll take whatever you've got.
Thanks for listenting to my "book". No one else would even understand what I'm writing about. They just think they need a good spanking and they will be fine. They don't get it and never will until it happens within their family.
Paula
Now...on to my princess difficult child. She is 6 and has anxiety disorder. When she's in her tantrums, she's like the exorcist. Her eyes are huge, her face is blood red with veins sticking out. She sweats and shakes and you'd swear her head is going to start spinning. When she's like that, she doesn't hear anything that we say. If we were upset with her for talking back, she will obsess about that over and over and then make things up until she obsessively crying about things like how will she see me when she gets married, and so on and so on. It's so frustrating. She says stuff like, "you hate me, you're always so mean to me, you don't want to be my friend, I don't want to go to school, the kids hate me, I hate the lunch there, you won't be there to pick me up today, you won't give me any dinner, you hate me (again and again), I don't know how to tie my shoes, I don't know what I'm going to do next Thursday, you were mean to me two years ago when you didn't let me go to Katie's birthday party, where will I go to college, when I get married how will I find you, do you promise, do you promise, do you promise".
I don't know how to calm her down when she's like this. She gets so exhaused that she usually falls asleep afterward.
She cannot stop talking. She will ask me the same questions over and over again during the day, just so that she can talk. I love her so much and I feel like such a horrible mother when I say that she drives me nuts sometimes. (ok...most of the time)I'll even ask her to try to stop talking for 10 minutes and maybe read a book or color a page or practice her writing, and she'll get that exorcist look and try so hard not to talk or whine or cry. It's terrible.
She has had a history of medical problems since birth and now all she's having all of these emotional problems.
They will be starting their wraparound services in a couple of weeks. I sure hope that helps because at this point, I'm about as stretched as I can get.
Anyone have any ideas of how to calm her down when she's like that? And any potty training ideas for my son? I'll take whatever you've got.
Thanks for listenting to my "book". No one else would even understand what I'm writing about. They just think they need a good spanking and they will be fine. They don't get it and never will until it happens within their family.
Paula