Hey everyone, I wanted to write about my son in hopes of finding some sort of solution / receiving advice. He is 4 and a half years old. He has always been a difficult child. For years, I never questioned his behaviour because I would bring it up to my mother and she would assure me that I was simply impatient and that it was all in my head. Mind you, shes only seen him twice times in the past two years, for a week at a time and never really spends time with him alone. When he hit 3, the tantrums started to get worse. I am a stay at home mom (always have been) and started to lose my mind. I have tried approaching several doctors who ignore my call for help, even getting reactions like, "well, he seems fine now" and "he's just a kid". I figured maybe still I was being dramatic, until my husband finally stayed home with us for a while and saw for himself and was shocked at how long I was able to put up with it. Then video chatting my cousin, she asked, "is he always like that?"referring to his terrible behaviour and refusing to sit still or speak to her at all. Age 4 hit. I thought maybe it would get better, and it didn't. It's been the same and possibly even worse. He has recently started peeing himself every time he gets mad and doesn't get his way. Some other stuff he does: - Does not follow rules at all - Does not care about consequences - Bothers / Hits our dog - Makes sounds (? Not sure how to describe it...) - Does things to purposely upset me or his dad - Throws tantrums constantly (screaming especially and does NOT calm down) - Has banged his head on things on purpose - Sometimes talks of hurting himself / Talks about death We have already taken him to a naturopath and gotten allergy tests done since no doctors would help us. We have cut out a lot of foods but it doesn't seem to be helping much. We also did speak to one pediatrician who ruled out autism. If anyone could help or has any advice on what to do that would be great. I have a newborn little girl at home and I'm at my wits end. Thank you.