My daughter turned 18 on New Year's Eve. She is now an adult, even though she is incredibly immature and has the mind of a 12 year old. Scary. Anyway, she is technically still in high school so I don't know if I can post here or in the General forum since she is now an adult but still in school. If this post doesn't belong here, please move it to another forum or let me know. So anyway, the reason for my post is that I am at my wit's end on what to do with my daughter. Since she turned 18, she has completely stopped attending school. She has now missed 10 days in a row. In our district, if a student misses school for ten consecutive days, they can be kicked out. I don't know if these rules apply to my daughter since she is Special Education and in the ED program. But consequences of her getting kicked out is child support stops for her and I am short $450 a month. I count on that money to pay my bills. If child support stops, I will need to cancel cable TV and we will no longer have access to the internet and we will also have to give up our cell phones. So basically we will be stuck in a tiny little one bedroom apartment with no TV and no Internet. I told my daughter what could potentially happen if she stops coming to school, but she is certain they will not drop her. Now that she's 18, I hold no rights over her education. I attempted to speak with the school psychologist about a week ago, and I was informed that my daughter will have to sign a form giving me permission to speak with any staff members at the school. Thank goodness my daughter agreed to sign the form. She is now requesting an IEP, and she gave me permission to attend. At first my daughter wanted to ask for a late start schedule, since she running a little on the manic side and she's not sleeping well at night. She refuses to get out of bed in the morning when I try and wake her up at 6:30. She used to let me pick her up on my lunch break and take her to school half day, but since she turned 18 she won't go at all. She is saying her stomach hurts and she is nauseas, but when I come home she is watching videos on her cell phone and binge eating. Baking cookies and muffins, etc, and eating half of what she bakes. I tell her that if she's really too sick to go to school, then she wouldn't be sitting up watching videos and eating all sorts of junk. She tells me that she can't help but eat a lot of food because even though she feels sick to her stomach, she is still really hungry. She also says that sitting up watching videos is not the same thing as having to use her brain to do actual work at school. She has an answer to everything. I attempted to take away her cell phone for her not going to school, and she held it tight and refused to let it go. My mom did manage to take away the laptop she was letting difficult child borrow, but she still has her phone and tablet. I don't know what to do anymore. All of a sudden I have a lazy adult child who refuses to follow rules or go to school. Now difficult child wants to go to independent study. I can see her just sitting at home on the phone all day and not actually completing any work they give her. She is literally the laziest person I have ever met. So now we have an IEP on February 8th that my daughter requested. More than likely she is going to request to be transferred to Independent study. I can give my advice and input, but ultimately the choice is my daughter's . This whole turning 18 thing is scary! I still can't get the thought in my head that my daughter is actually and adult! I don't know what to do with her. Should I try and convince her to go start attending school, or go with her decision to try independent study? My mom is trying really hard to convince me to tell my daughter that Independent study is a bad idea for her. She is right, my daughter is not an independent worker, but what are my other options when she claims to be too sick to go to school? I am going crazy trying to figure out what to do with an adult child who refuses to do anything!