Stepmom, RyMas, and Rene',
Hi there, I don't recall ever seeing you on the board before. Just wanted to welcome you and tell you that you found a wonderful place that is CHOCK full of moms with ODD kids. You will find much support here.
ODD is rarely by itself, that is, most kids have that as an add-on to something else. All our kids have various degrees of combinations of diagnoses, and we all stick together with love and support to come up with creative ways to deal with them.
One thing we usually suggest, is the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Some do not like it, most do. It gives a good look inside the mind of the difficult child, and has great insight as to discipline.
Again, welcome to the board!