4kidsforme
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I just found this forum today and am hoping for some help.
Recently, my six-year-old son has been coming to me with lots of worries. First, he started worrying that he was God, but he couldn't figure out if he was pretending to be God or if he really was God. Then he worried that even if he was pretending, that it was bad and he would get in trouble (of course he didn't, I told him pretending was fun & there's nothing wrong with it.) Once we talked about it, he was fine and went back to playing. He still brings it up occasionally, but not with the panic he did before.
Then, he started worrying that he was "on the Devil's side" and didn't know it. Which then progressed to worrying that he was the devil. Again, I assured him that he wasn't and after a lot of crying on his part, he felt better and went back to playing.
Today, he told me he's been thinking about killing me and he's worried that he will. He says he doesn't want to, but then he thinks maybe he should. He said he thinks this when he looks at my "private area". He also said that he was worried he would kill me if someone gave him $100. Needless to say, this was an alarming conversation for me, but I kept calm and talked to him about it. I am not naked around him so I don't know what he means by when he looks at me there.
All of this discussion is also tied up in confusion about whether it's okay to think about his private parts or to touch them. I told him that it was normal and that his body is his own and it's okay to touch his penis in private.
I don't know where any of this is coming from. We are not an overly religious family. We attend church sporadically but not enough to prompt all of this worry. Also, he told me some of the kids on the bus are talking about their "private parts" so I don't know if some of it is coming from that.
We have had a change in our family recently. We adopted another child from China. But this is our 3rd adoption from China and he did not act like this with the other two. Also, a year ago, my mom (who he was very close to) died.
I'm very worried (not about myself, about him.) He's a very sweet child. Not violent at all. And while he does worry about a lot of things, this is completely unlike him.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
Recently, my six-year-old son has been coming to me with lots of worries. First, he started worrying that he was God, but he couldn't figure out if he was pretending to be God or if he really was God. Then he worried that even if he was pretending, that it was bad and he would get in trouble (of course he didn't, I told him pretending was fun & there's nothing wrong with it.) Once we talked about it, he was fine and went back to playing. He still brings it up occasionally, but not with the panic he did before.
Then, he started worrying that he was "on the Devil's side" and didn't know it. Which then progressed to worrying that he was the devil. Again, I assured him that he wasn't and after a lot of crying on his part, he felt better and went back to playing.
Today, he told me he's been thinking about killing me and he's worried that he will. He says he doesn't want to, but then he thinks maybe he should. He said he thinks this when he looks at my "private area". He also said that he was worried he would kill me if someone gave him $100. Needless to say, this was an alarming conversation for me, but I kept calm and talked to him about it. I am not naked around him so I don't know what he means by when he looks at me there.
All of this discussion is also tied up in confusion about whether it's okay to think about his private parts or to touch them. I told him that it was normal and that his body is his own and it's okay to touch his penis in private.
I don't know where any of this is coming from. We are not an overly religious family. We attend church sporadically but not enough to prompt all of this worry. Also, he told me some of the kids on the bus are talking about their "private parts" so I don't know if some of it is coming from that.
We have had a change in our family recently. We adopted another child from China. But this is our 3rd adoption from China and he did not act like this with the other two. Also, a year ago, my mom (who he was very close to) died.
I'm very worried (not about myself, about him.) He's a very sweet child. Not violent at all. And while he does worry about a lot of things, this is completely unlike him.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.