Poor difficult child has been through so much with-his medications--every allergy under the sun, and right now, on depakote, and he's as cranky as can be. I am so sick of this. Last night I went to a NAMI mtng, and there was a special speaker: a(n MD) psychiatrist who spoke about transcranial magnetic stimulation for depression that does not respond to drugs (or for those who are allergic), and a DNA saliva test that can help determine what an individual will react positively and negatively to. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post the name of the company but it's got gene in the name. The test is $3200 ... the equivalent to the $ we wasted last yr on medications, even with ins. I am for it; husband is not.:check_writer: Ins covers part of it. (Reminds me of the time I was tested for the breast cancer gene; very expensive but worth it, since there are 4 females in my family of origin.) Also, we met with-the therapist today, and he gave us a ph # for a local dr who specializes in matching up drug resistant pts to the right medication. I don't want the doctors to butt heads but I am so sick of this merry-go-round. I'm ready for both the saliva test and the transcranial magentic stimulation right this minute! I found a govn't sponsored trial online but you have to be 18, and difficult child is only 16. Plus, it was updated in Jan. in they are still putting all the pieces in place b4 it's open to the public. It was worth a try; this stuff is expensive! difficult child has been very cranky, but in the tdocs ofc, he was talking up a storm and very mature. Very verbal and clear. I think it's worth the visit every time. He'll wind up like a top b4 we go in, complaining about what a waste it is and how he thinks it's stupid, and then I have a headache, but it's worth it once he unloads. He's going to be working on mindfulness, paying attention to when he's feeling anxious or crankly, practicing his breathing, etc. so he doesn't just start yelling. It is such a nice change, even though I hate the yelling--he used to just scream and slam and kick and spit. Now he uses real words. It's sort of like living with-my mother again, lol!