I have a friend, Arlene, who emailed 4 or 5 of her friends and asked for advice. She lives next to a single father of a 5 year old. The mom is not in the picture. He works a lot to make ends meet. She said the 5 year old shows up a lot, unannounced or invited, and is annoying. She's bossy and rude. She also says its because she's just not been taught better. She asked for suggestions. I suggested she talk to dad and schedule a couple of play dates a week. Maybe knowing he has a break will help him keep her at home the rest of the time, or at least not at Arlene's. Another response came from a lady who's very religious. She quoted 2 Bible passages about staying out of your neighbors house. Then told Arlene to bore this little girl to the point she won't want to come back. When this lady saw my reply, she responded to everyone saying "Here's a thought, Arlene. Does this man watch your kid so you can have a break? Why should you be responsible for his kid and being sure he gets a break?" I was offended. I sometimes think I'm a social faux pas, so I'm asking, is this a little offensive?