Marguerite
Active Member
difficult child 3 has just reached THAT time of day when he feels school hours are over. However, he didn't get enough work done today. He said he was going for a walk - he often does, to stretch his legs after a busy day on schoolwork.
I said to him, "OK, good idea to get some exercise, but you need to do more on your schoolwork later on after it's dark."
He said, "OK, I'll do that..." as he headed off to get his boots on. Then he came back in.
"Should I have said instead, 'Whatever!' in that irritate tone of voice? Would that have been more appropriate?"
I gently told him that it was NEVER appropriate in our house because it's something he's got from watching US TV shows, we actually don't say "Whatever" like that in Australia.
He was quite accepting of the need to do more work, although maybe not exactly enthusiastic, but he really wants to be seen as behaving indistinguishably normal. He's actually asking me to help him rehearse what is basically stubborn, defiant behaviour.
What next?
Marg
I said to him, "OK, good idea to get some exercise, but you need to do more on your schoolwork later on after it's dark."
He said, "OK, I'll do that..." as he headed off to get his boots on. Then he came back in.
"Should I have said instead, 'Whatever!' in that irritate tone of voice? Would that have been more appropriate?"
I gently told him that it was NEVER appropriate in our house because it's something he's got from watching US TV shows, we actually don't say "Whatever" like that in Australia.
He was quite accepting of the need to do more work, although maybe not exactly enthusiastic, but he really wants to be seen as behaving indistinguishably normal. He's actually asking me to help him rehearse what is basically stubborn, defiant behaviour.
What next?
Marg