I teach English Comp I, II, creative writing, and advanced placement literature at a high school. These students have amazing and sometimes gifted abilities, but their problem is they can’t handle boredom. They are easily bored and have to have constant stimulation because they just lose interest in everything they have to do. These students don’t know how to handle boredom, so they get themselves into trouble because it’s more entertaining to do something risky than to follow the rules of life. It’s not always ADHD. These students just cannot keep themselves entertained about anything.
I don’t know what the solution is, but I’ve seen it happen so many times to brilliant students and athletes who could have the world as their oyster.
The above was started on another thread and I would like to discuss more in-depth here.
Crayola, I think the prominence of video games has a lot to do with it. The speed, the graphics, the rush that the user feels playing them. This is so evident in a lot of what we see on television and in the media. Even the tv commercials nowadays flash in front of you like a blur!
The shows on television have become extremely graphic in their violence—I can barely watch some of them! I think this gratuitous violence is required just to keep the younger generation engaged because they are so used to seeing it on those life-like video games and anything less won’t hold their attention. In addition, more young people are producing these shows and this is the norm for them.
Even the sex is more than I care to watch on many shows appearing on Netflix, Peacock, etc. Do I need to watch the entire sex act? A little subtlety works for me…I can get the idea.
Cell phones are actually designed to become addictive and today’s kids (and lots of adults) are addicted to them, checking every few minutes for Facebook updates, Snapchat posts or whatever… I don’t really know, because I’m not addicted to mine. But whatever it is, has certainly gotten their attention.
My daughter’s boyfriend, about age 32, is addicted to his phone. He’s also a heavy gamer. They come over and we can barely get a conversation going because he is constantly checking it. I find it disrespectful to be in someone’s home visiting but engaging with your phone! I don’t feel it is my place to tell him to put it away but it irritates the ****out if me!! My son does the same thing when he visits, though not as much. I tell him to put it away, though, since I’m still his mom, lol. Seriously, I just find it rude!
I think the prevalence of all this is creating the issues you are seeing, Crayola. It has got to be hard to hold these kids’ attention. How can you possibly compete with all the stuff they are deluged with on practically a minute-by-minute basis?
I also worry about parents who stick a computer screen or phone in front of their baby‘s face before they can even walk. How does that help the child develop? Or not? Perhaps fine motor skills? But what does it do for attention, relating to others, etc.?
Something else about today’s kids I found interesting—I recently had an elementary teacher tell me that she finds today’s kids cannot handle ANY frustration. That they just lose it over every little thing and fall apart. I have some thoughts on that as well, but I think I’ve ranted on long enough. I’ll save that for another day, lol.
Thoughts or comments on any of this? Pro or con? I’d love to hear it. Thank you Crayola, for bringing up this topic. As you can probably tell, it is one of my pet peeves!