muts80
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I am in desperate need of some good advice from mom's who know my pain!
I have a 9 year old son who has been diagnosed with bipolar, ODD, and ADHD. He is seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist, and is currently on Abilify and Adderal. The medications are working ok....but he's still having great difficulty with melt downs. Most of them are a result of his "friends" (which are not good friends at all). He isn't grasping the concept of what friendship should be. They are mean to him, they reel him in just to bully him, they call him names, and they know what buttons to push to make him explode. But yet, he still wants to hang out with these kids. It breaks my heart, because he is so desperate for a friend, he is willing to put up with it. I don't know what else to do. I have tried keeping him away from those kids, but there's a girl that he is "in love" with, and he is unwilling to distance himself from her. He tells me "you aren't in control of who I can be friends with!" Of course, I explain to him that when he's 18 he can do whatever he wants, but he's just a child and I determine who he can and can't be friends with...for his own good. He doesn't get it. Tonight was really bad. He had a huge meltdown in the middle of the neighborhood. I was so embarrassed. He screamed like a 2 year old. I am at the end of my rope of what to say to him. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
I have a 9 year old son who has been diagnosed with bipolar, ODD, and ADHD. He is seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist, and is currently on Abilify and Adderal. The medications are working ok....but he's still having great difficulty with melt downs. Most of them are a result of his "friends" (which are not good friends at all). He isn't grasping the concept of what friendship should be. They are mean to him, they reel him in just to bully him, they call him names, and they know what buttons to push to make him explode. But yet, he still wants to hang out with these kids. It breaks my heart, because he is so desperate for a friend, he is willing to put up with it. I don't know what else to do. I have tried keeping him away from those kids, but there's a girl that he is "in love" with, and he is unwilling to distance himself from her. He tells me "you aren't in control of who I can be friends with!" Of course, I explain to him that when he's 18 he can do whatever he wants, but he's just a child and I determine who he can and can't be friends with...for his own good. He doesn't get it. Tonight was really bad. He had a huge meltdown in the middle of the neighborhood. I was so embarrassed. He screamed like a 2 year old. I am at the end of my rope of what to say to him. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!