Marguerite
Active Member
Sounds like a new school placement is Plan A.
He's a clever kid, as you said, and has sadly been given a great deal of pay-off for lying and refusing to do work.
Can't you share this info about his mother away from his presence? He won't want to hear it form you, but a piece of paper with the information on it, not from you but simply court documents, for example, might be the way for him to find out. The person to blame for this is biomom, not anybody else. But he can't do that while he has her on a pedestal.
He has been abused. He did not lie about that. But the nature of his abuse has meant that he cannot blame his accuser, without feeling like he has to also shoulder the blame. As is sadly common, the abuse victim is often made to feel complicit, the abuse at some level is enjoyable even though it is still doing damage. But a child cannot legally be responsible for the sexual abuse that happened to him. So he has to find someone else to blame.
I'd be suspecting that a lot more went on with his mother than has been found out.
Marg
He's a clever kid, as you said, and has sadly been given a great deal of pay-off for lying and refusing to do work.
Can't you share this info about his mother away from his presence? He won't want to hear it form you, but a piece of paper with the information on it, not from you but simply court documents, for example, might be the way for him to find out. The person to blame for this is biomom, not anybody else. But he can't do that while he has her on a pedestal.
He has been abused. He did not lie about that. But the nature of his abuse has meant that he cannot blame his accuser, without feeling like he has to also shoulder the blame. As is sadly common, the abuse victim is often made to feel complicit, the abuse at some level is enjoyable even though it is still doing damage. But a child cannot legally be responsible for the sexual abuse that happened to him. So he has to find someone else to blame.
I'd be suspecting that a lot more went on with his mother than has been found out.
Marg