Our son has a plan that when he turns 21 (this April), he's going to buy a gun & kill himself. Dan has social phobia, ADD & clinical depression, and usually is not willing to leave his room, let alone go outside. We've tried a number of anti-depressants, which haven't worked. He's also been to counselors & psychiatrists at Stanford, but refuses to go anymore. To Dan, life is meaningless and painful. Human existence itself is a blot on the world. We would all be better off dead, and he is the only one smart enough to see it, and to say it. He just wants to check out. We are unable to get Dan to do anything meaningful for himself, or make any advancement in his life. We would probably have to create a crisis in order create change. And we don’t really know how to do that. He just sits in his room & watches videos or plays online games. Dan is gentle, thoughtful, considerate, and highly intelligent. He has never been in a real crisis. We just don’t know how to get through to him. We don’t know what to do except sit around and wait.