SuZir
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Our respite kid has some potty issues and I could use some ideas.
Boy, 5 years old, currently diagnosed with Mixed specific developmental disorder but will likely turn into a Asperger in next evaluation which is scheduled for this spring, though NLD is also a possibility. He and his sister spend some weekends and few week nights with us. He is quite hyper little boy, a total sweetie and really quite aspieish in every way.
He is having some issues with wetting and at times also soiling his pants. He is quite embarrassed about it but either doesn't really recognize the need to go early enough or simply doesn't want to take a break from what he is doing before it is almost too late. The issue is worse at our house than at home and I think it is because of anxiety and also because there is so much new and exciting for him going on when he is here. Soiling happens more often in day care than in home or with us because he doesn't seem to feel comfortable pooping there. They are working solutions for that, but we need to find some solutions when he is with us too.
Soiling isn't a big problem in our house (and when it happens, it happens because he quite doesn't make it to the potty in time), but he wets his pants at least a little quite often. It happens more frequently when he is with husband doing something (I think he may be embarrassed to tell him he needs a bathroom break.) We try to make him go to potty every couple of hours (not asking if he needs to go but just telling him to go to potty now and after that we will do this or that) and it does help quite a lot if we just remember to do it. But it hasn't solved the problem entirely and he really does feel bad about the accidents so some other ideas would be welcome.
He hasn't been our respite kid that long so hopefully he does get even more comfortable with us over time and that could help. His doctors have not found anything wrong in him medically and think this is mostly behavioural (he had more issues with soiling when he was constipated but diet helps with that and that is not really an issue now.)
Boy, 5 years old, currently diagnosed with Mixed specific developmental disorder but will likely turn into a Asperger in next evaluation which is scheduled for this spring, though NLD is also a possibility. He and his sister spend some weekends and few week nights with us. He is quite hyper little boy, a total sweetie and really quite aspieish in every way.
He is having some issues with wetting and at times also soiling his pants. He is quite embarrassed about it but either doesn't really recognize the need to go early enough or simply doesn't want to take a break from what he is doing before it is almost too late. The issue is worse at our house than at home and I think it is because of anxiety and also because there is so much new and exciting for him going on when he is here. Soiling happens more often in day care than in home or with us because he doesn't seem to feel comfortable pooping there. They are working solutions for that, but we need to find some solutions when he is with us too.
Soiling isn't a big problem in our house (and when it happens, it happens because he quite doesn't make it to the potty in time), but he wets his pants at least a little quite often. It happens more frequently when he is with husband doing something (I think he may be embarrassed to tell him he needs a bathroom break.) We try to make him go to potty every couple of hours (not asking if he needs to go but just telling him to go to potty now and after that we will do this or that) and it does help quite a lot if we just remember to do it. But it hasn't solved the problem entirely and he really does feel bad about the accidents so some other ideas would be welcome.
He hasn't been our respite kid that long so hopefully he does get even more comfortable with us over time and that could help. His doctors have not found anything wrong in him medically and think this is mostly behavioural (he had more issues with soiling when he was constipated but diet helps with that and that is not really an issue now.)