Oh DJ- this PO hates me now. I think what happened is that he got his butt chewed out on Mon by his super and insttead of calling me Tues and saying that things had changed due to a meeting with his super or something like that, he called me going off about them being the ones to write the treatment program not me, when he'd left things with me that it was my choice and he recommended difficult child coming home- 3 days earlier. This conversation got sooooo bad- we were both more than livid with each other, then I slammed the phone on him. This whole thing has turned into another situation like we had with that probation officer. Remember? difficult child had been in psychiatric hospital 5-6 times in 2-3 mos and was starting to wave a knife in front of me at home, while cutting himself, too. PO wouldn't do anything except order me to do more- all of which I had already done- keep difficult child supervised 24/7, remove sharp objects from home, etc. That was it, so I fought and got it in front of county team and they made PO do something so she ordered inhome therapy- paid for with Department of Juvenile Justice funding which means it was going to be aa behavior contract and this was going to start up about 3-4 weeks down the road. Like that was going to help that crisis??? And in less than a week, difficult child pulled that knife on me. Then the same PO refused to consider Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or ANYTHING other than commitment to Department of Juvenile Justice. I feel like this is similar. I refused for difficult child to come straight home with same 'plan' (aka nothing) as last year, so now it's become a group home that will probably have difficult child until he's over 18. I would have thought super's would prevent orders that appear to be based on retaliation against a parent, but apparently they don't step in and do anything. This guy just started working as a PO in this jurisdiction about 6 mos ago so I wonder if he has a probationary period and ggets scrutinized on his decisions?
As example of how bad things got our last conversation- I told PO I thought difficult child needed to be on an ankle bracelet whether he went to group home or came straight home. He said that I didn't get to make that decision and difficult child would be on one if he was coming to my house but wouldn't be if he went to group home unless he started misbehaving and the determined then that he did. I reminded him that the lady said they can't stop difficult child from sneaking out at night or being truant and have no staff awake at night. He well, they would wait and see but it would be them to make the determination. Now, I didn't think I was trying to question his authority- I thought I was letting him know info he needed to know. Anyway, he spewed on a little more about them having authority not me and I said this wasn't me trying to tell him what to do, it was a warning of what my difficult child most likely will do. I ciould hear his blood boil at that point. I must be stupid b./c I really don't get why a PO would get so upset over a parent telling them this type of info. They get mad whe a parent doesn't inform them so WTH?
I told last PO I thought difficult child needed a monitor and he didn't get all in an uproar over it or take it like I was questioning his authority. Now, that probation officer a few years ago was like this PO. It has to be their idea or it's nnot happening, no matter how sensible the suggestion from the parent is.