Really overwhelmed

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Lothlorien, Mar 8, 2011.

  1. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    I'm sorry guys for not being around much. With husband's mom's passing and now the you-know-what hitting the fan with Missy, I'm overwhelmed.

    I had to call 911 this morning. It was ugly. She eventually calmed down and I took her to school, but I'm mentally exhausted. This is the third time in so many weeks that I've either had to call 911 or mobile response.

    I know she needs a medication change, but that's the problem. Neuro wants the p-doctor to do it and p-doctor is on vacation and I can't get an appointment until the end of April. The police officer got on the phone with them and made demands all over the place with them, so we'll see if we can get in sometime this week.

    Gosh, I'm exhausted.
  2. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    O Loth,

    I'm so sorry! That sounds overwhelming....I don't blame you for feeling "in over your head".

    Hopefully, they can get her in to see someone ASAP!

  3. Star*

    Star* call 911

    I'm impressed with this officer.......KUDOS to him - What a rare man. De-escalation, got her back to school and calls the psychiatrist and neuro ? WOW.

    Sending hugs and love to you Loth - you certainly don't need this! ((((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))

    .....hands rhino skin.....and hugs for Missy -
  4. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Sending caring thoughts and hugs. I'm so sorry it's stacked up on you. DDD
  5. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Definitely, Star. I got his name, so I can follow up with him and let him know what results from it and to make sure I send him a thank you. He was the same officer that came out when Missy had a really bad seizure two years ago (in March too) and he was the one who suggested giving her oxygen. After the oxygen was given, she perked right back up. He's definitey a good guy and a good cop!
  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Way To Go officer!

    ((((hugs)))) Saying prayers someone gets on the ball with the medication change and it eases up soon.
  7. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    Hugs, Loth. Hope you get in soon.
  8. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    I can feel your mental and emotional exhaustion. They really take it out of you. I hope that the doctors(both) get their heads together and come up with a better plan to handle emergencies. Truthfully, if you have to call 911, her doctors should have an appointment. that day. Ridiculous to wait until the end of April.
    How is she doing in school?
  9. Jena

    Jena New Member

    sorry your going through a rough patch..... just wanted to send some hugs your way!! hang in there!!

  10. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Fran, I told the nurse to call me if there were any issues today or if she seemed overly tired. She goes to the nurse at 1:30 every day for medications. She's been managing to keep it together at school, but we've been having more and more problems at home and with friends. She's been sooooo manic.

    I agree with you, doctor should see her same day, but she's on vacation. They said....go to ER. Duh! ER is going to just see she's calm and send her home to follow up with her doctor. Then I get a $700 bill. No thanks. The officer knew that and told them he was not going to send her to the ER.
  11. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Loth - hugs. For all of you. Don't have any good advice, just wanted to let you know I'm here.
  12. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Sending good thoughts and many hugs.
  13. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Oh Loth...I'm sorry about this...I've got difficult child 1 in a psychiatric hospital. in Westchester and they're leveling him out...the precurser to all of it was exhausting - I hate the idea that you're going through this right now...could your mother in law passing have contributed to this or is it basically that she's just getting bigger/older/hormones all rolled into one?

    That police officer sounds like a dream - can they clone him?

    Lots of prayers and gentle hugs headed your way!

  14. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

  15. ThreeShadows

    ThreeShadows Quid me anxia?

    Hugs, Loth, I'm so sorry.
  16. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    She's been on a decline since last June. It happens to coincide with mother in law's sickness, but we didn't know about it at that time, so that's not the reason for the decline. However, since about December, she's really been manic on a regular basis. Since mother in law passed, she has completely shut down with the psychologist and refuses to talk to her. I definitely believe Missy is not dealing with her grief. She will bring mother in law up once in a while, but won't really talk about her or about missing her.

    Hormone's are definitely a factor too. She's having cramps, breaking out and her chest is growing slightly. Also, she's had a fairly large weight gain. She's always been a good eater and thin, but not too thin. Really, rather a perfect size. She almost has a dancer's body....very muscular legs (like me). Recently, she's been overeating like crazy and buying two lunches at school or taking lunch and buying lunch too. I've noticed she's gained at least 15 pounds in the last few months (3 or 4 months). So, she's obviously outgrown her medications. The Trileptal is according to her weight. If her levels dip below 120, she's a nightmare. I would lay money out that if we tested her levels today, she's probably about 112, if not lower.

    I can't tell you why or how, but my gut feeling is that she needs to be on Lamictal. It's a better mood stabilizer than Trileptal and stabilizes mood at a lower dose versus the higher dose for seizures. This would probably take care of the sleepiness she has because of the Trileptal, which also contributes to her raging.

    In the meantime (this is not the answer and it is causing her to be more tired), we have decided to increase the Trileptal another 300mg until I can get her into the psychiatrist.