Really!?

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by LavenderShoremaid, Dec 17, 2017.

  1. LavenderShoremaid

    LavenderShoremaid New Member

    Okay. So supposedly daughter has been in some sort of clinic for children/young adults that suffer severe depression/other mental disorders since Thanksgiving. I get a text message from her BFF that about a week ago that she passed out and had to be transported to the hospital. Then BFF tells me she had to borrow the money from her Grandmother to pay for her visit to the ER. Hospital wants cash because she has no insurance-but the clinic has had her there close to a month with no payment or insurance ? (I call BS).

    Friday BFF texts me she has the invoice receipt from the ER for me to pay back Gran. $786.00...and she needs to buy her fuel for the winter (insert tiny violins). I tell her to send me a photo of the receipt. It's clearly been copied from the many you can find online. It doesn't even have the hospital logo which has a building on it just the name in bold lettering. Here's the topper and proof that EVERYTHING I HEAR IS A BOLD-FACED LIE !!!!! It included a VAT tax of 8.25% (not filled in). The USA does not use VAT tax it uses Sales tax of which is set by the state that the service or sale was done. The State she lives in is still 6%.

    I figure the need for Christmas goodies is tugging at my purse-strings...however, the strings have been severed. In fact due to the sliced artery of cash-flow (they've stolen from us for close to a year) ...our own Christmas at home is restricted to Christmas movies on tv and good foods baked and cooked by me. NO gifts this year-I will wait for the after holiday sales if I have anything leftover. I am still waiting for the go-ahead on the move to the new State we are moving to; it's been pushed back 3 months. I need to hold onto the cash we have for moving purposes.

    My husband says just ignore, ignore, ignore. He said don't argue with or even engage with any of them.


    My backbone is still pretty fragile but it's getting stronger every day.
     
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  2. New Leaf

    New Leaf Well-Known Member

    Me too.
    Same here. Sliced artery. You know what LS? I think that sounds like a wonderful Christmas.
    :gingerbread:
    Smart hubby. That is a pretty elaborate scheme they came up with. Wow. Fortunately, you were wise enough to call it for what it is, bs. I am sorry for the hurt of it.
    Good for you LS, keep building and fortifying yourself. I agree with you......
    Really!? How dumb do they think we are?
    (((HUGS)))
    Leafy
     
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  3. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    You are doing the right thing and hubby sounds so smart. I often wonder why they can do this with so much more ease than us. I know they love the kids as much as we do. They just deal with this in more logical ways.

    If Daughter steals from you, you do t have to get her anything. Apparently she gifted to herself and tried to scam you for more.

    I like your little, cozy Christmas Day plan too! Perfect!
     
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  4. ksm

    ksm Well-Known Member

    Unless your daughter is a minor, you shouldn't be responsible for any charges. good luck. Wow...if these kids could use the smarts for good, who knows what could be accomplished. Mary
     
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  5. LavenderShoremaid

    LavenderShoremaid New Member

    Thanks Everyone! Yes, my daughter is 24 now. She has had 2 years to learn and grow out there in the big wide world. She wanted to be out of the house without any training, skills, experience or responsibilities apparently. All she's learned to do is how to lie, cheat, and steal. Somehow our entire life together was a horror movie according to her. Her rose-colored glasses were apparently broken and she sees everything we did as wrong, one-sided, and unfair. No, if anything she was spoiled rotten! Well, I draw the line at stealing from her own parents. All whilst one of them has lost their job due to cutbacks. She can hate me all she wants...I've been a lot of things but doormat is not on my resume!
     
  6. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    You are doing great! Good job on not buying into the con of the hospital bill.
     
  7. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    My thoughts exactly
     
  8. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    When your spidy senses tingle and your gut speaks to you it is always wise to listen.

    The lies and shams we have been out through no “normal” parent would comprehend.

    Enjoy the Christmas and good for you!!

    You know your doing the right thing when they are mad at you. So when she gets mad just remember that.

    Sorry I had to laugh out loud about the VAT.
     
  9. LavenderShoremaid

    LavenderShoremaid New Member

    You know had we not lived in France for a year and traveled many times to Europe I may not have caught that VAT thing !
     
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