we worked so hard to put together. Well, I saw it in action last night. kt was in a major rage (not meltdown); all over something that was testing the limits with Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker. While I was ready to step in, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker turned to me & said "this is my job, when she's calm you're welcome to step in. If I say call crisis team, please just do it." What a relief. I'm trying hard to allow others to take on the negatives with kt so I can have some of the positives of parenting that hasn't happened very often. It goes against my grain to do "just half the job", if you know what I mean. And given the level of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kt has been diagnosis'd with, it's the right way to go. We need to build on the positives of the parenting relationship. Slowly, I will step in with the negatives once again. I practiced piano while kt was in the midst of her rage & was able to comfort & nurture kt when she had calmed. This morning kt told me that she doesn't like the workers here. Oh well, she's getting older & she needs this level of intervention; especially if we want to have her live here successfully. It was so hard to step back last night. Thanks for the ear.