DC2 is not getting her cleaning chores done . Conveniently forgets , lies about it being done, then when confronted does a half effort job. I feel like I have to stand over her and micromanage and I don't want to have to do that with a 21 year old. She acts entitled all the time, is only nice when she wants me to buy something , and is otherwise rude a lot . When I confront her on her attitude towards me, I hear that she "has anxiety" , that when she is stressed she will act that way and I "need to adjust". When I address that, she turns it around and claims she never said that , that her and I "just have very different personalities" etc So there is no point trying to reason .I laid down the law this morning and just said that if she wishes to use my car on occasion to go see her friend that I need all cleaning chores done and done well without me micromanaging. I also said she is control of her emotions and her reactions and that anxiety is not an excuse. This child used to be my sidekick. Joined at the hip .We did everything together, traveled, had so much fun. She used to help out around the house so much to help me, was just genuinely pleasing towards me and helpful and thoughtful. And that relationship is gone. And that hurts. But I can't cry over spilled milk and need to deal with the issues at hand.