Don't get me wrong. I never believe difficult child initially. I keep in constant contact with spec. ed. teacher, social worker, Program director and sometimes teachers directly. I question difficult child many, many times with different questions, different versions before I come to my conclusions. There is certain way difficult child answers all my questions, and husband's, and I do this many times. I did update my first post when I had more time to question difficult child in detail. The VP was very loud, leaning over his desk accusing difficult child of all these things that were written. By that time I had followed through on many issues so I knew the answers. I had a copy of his IEP with me, difficult child has several steps to follow. School has several steps they are to follow. Not a single one was followed. The issue that was written on the referral (which difficult child was not even allowed to see) was not correct. I know this other student too. It specifically said he Stole her sunglasses, he was wearing them. He refused to give them back. I wanted the correct information on there and asked for it. Teacher eventually re-wrote it. Still difficult child had disagreed with some. VP took us in the back room and said, "just so you know the girl WAS talked to and she said she opened her locker, you took her glasses and ran away". difficult child was extremely upset then and asked for him to call her down. He said no. I told difficult child to speak to her. VP said, "NO, don't you talk to her". difficult child spoke to her and she said, "I swear to god I told them I gave you the glasses". So, I emailed the principal and told her I do not want difficult child accused of theft if he did not do it. Maybe if the two kids were questioned together this could be clarified. Principal emailed me back last night and said she wanted to clarify things. That the girl was talked to and she DID say that she gave the glasses to him earlier in the day. Teacher did admit he was NOT wearing them. So, the VP deliberately lied to us. He KNEW what she said but chose to tell us a different story. VP knew he wasn't wearing the glasses, yet chose to chew him out and tell him he WAS. Now, this is not a power struggle. It is all about the kids. Being that he threatened to call the police on me because I wanted the correct information on the referral made me angry. I asked him what needs to be done to see that his IEP is followed, he just blew me off. Again yesterday difficult child was removed from yet another class. Refused to do his work. He was punished. There is no excuse for this. He is not very happy at this point. Didn't even take it any further. No excuse for that. However, I am angry because for the past year, this year included I have requested over and over and over that he not deal with one of the staff members, as she is a yeller. Doesn't let you speak. That just causes more issues when she starts screaming. Well, even though he was wrong for refusing his work, they called her and he was sent to her office for the rest of the day. difficult child IS punished for his part in all class removals. There is obviously something that is going wrong. I requested to observe this class and was told NO. I am just not going to allow difficult child to sign a paper stating he did something he did not do. The fact is he doesn't even get to see the referral and what is written about him. He is handed a blank sheet of paper and said to write his statement. (more than last year). But there is a portion ON the referral for student statement. That is where He should be writting his statement. After he see's what the teacher has said. I was told the students do not leave the class without one of three forms. He has never had any one of these forms. I DO question him and speak to school authorities prior to ever believing him. Most of the time when he is lying, it isn't all a lie. He just conveniently leaves out part of the story. Not in this past case though. Just hit husband and myself the wrong way because we personally know this girl and we couldn't figure out why he would steal from her, or why she would accuse him of doing so. There is not one single thing that has been followed on his IEP. And the VP didn't really care. I proved the VP wrong on THREE issues. The fourth I found out yesterday when the principal told me. VP told me that difficult child does not have any classes with this girl and he should not even be seeing her. I told him he did have class with her. He told me no he did not, he checked. When difficult child was there I asked him if he had her in any class. He said yes, French class. So, why would the VP lie to me? Why would he say the girl said he took the glasses from her locker when in fact she never said that? Why would he tell difficult child that? Then forbid him to speak to her..Like that is going to happen. He just lost all respect from me, husband and difficult child. It is going to be a very long year.