scaredofhim
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husband and I found out that SS's school refusal escalated last week. He had a history of asthma when he was very young but it has not seemed to bother him in the few years I have known him, he has had no asthma attacks. Last Sunday he told bio mom he was sick and he was not going to school last Monday and when Monday morning came, he refused, she missed work to take him to the dr. The dr. said he had a cold and a cough but proceeded to prescribe and inhaler and steroids anyway and told bio mom that SS had very slight wheezing but he could go to school the next day. So he goes back to school and then goes to the nurse three days in a row and insists that bio mom come and get him and take him home. She picked him up the first day and then his aunt went and picked him up from the nurse's office the next two days. And he was angry about his aunt picking him up. He told bio mom he wanted HER to leave work and come and get him when he needs to leave school. He is very manipulative. Then he refused to go to school last Friday and told bio mom it's because of asthma. Now that the dr. has put that asthma diagnosis in his head he is going to continue to use it as an excuse not to go to school. Bio mom took away all his electronics and said he isn't getting them back until he goes to school. So Sunday night comes and he told her he is not going to school on Monday because he is still too sick. So she calls us wanting husband to talk to him Sunday night, and bio mom told us that SS told her that his dad would not make him go to school if he lived here, and that he gets to do whatever he wants at our house and we never make him do anything, and that husband would never mind leaving work to come pick him up from school no matter how often he had to do it. husband set him straight on all of that and assured him that it was not true, but SS was delusional and still believed it to be so. And he told husband that he didn't want to hear him *n at him. And SS said to his bio mom "what kind of mom takes electronics away from her sick child?" His perception of reality is totally warped and it is scary. husband informed him that he and I would never put up with the stuff he does at his house but like I said, it fell on deaf ears. SS does not believe us. He lives in his own fantasy world. He is right and we are all wrong. husband tried to tell him there are going to be serious consequences for this behavior if it continues. All SS could do was continue to act all grandiose and belligerent on the phone. He truly believes he is smarter than all of us and knows it all, that he is right and we are all wrong. And sure enough, he didn't go to school Monday. Bio mom took him to the dr. yesterday and she claims the dr. said he now has an ear infection but that he could still go to school so she took him to school. She claims she still has not given him back his electronics. Anyway, was hoping to hear how some of you handled the school refusal. He is a big boy...189 pounds and there is no way bio mom can physically drag him to school if he refuses to go. He is more than likely going to fail this year. There is no truant officer in his county but bio mom has been told she can get into trouble if she can't make him go to school. This child really needs to be in residential treatment before he winds up in Juvie...and it is just a matter of time before that happens with the way things are escalating.....