This has been a big part of my life in the past few days. I will try to make it short but I am not good at short. Please tell me what you think is the ethicsl thing to do for my kids. And my ex. I am thinking of calling his brother who he listens to. A few days ago I got a call from Princess. She was about to leave for exs house and told me he had been on the floor for an hour and couldnt get up but that he was coherant. I told her to call 911. She said he told her not to. Both Bart and Princess have a real fear of him. I maay also add that ex has had a very serious illness since age 27. It is a miracle he is still alive at 71. Bit he is six feet tall and 90 lbs. has seriouos osteoarthritislung issues and his memory has been going downhill for a while. I am not related to him anymore so I stayed out of it. He hasnt been willing to sell his two story home in whoch the bedroom is upstairs. And he falls a lot. I digress. I got off and called 911 and since the patamedics could not get in and Princess wasmt there yrt with the key they called me back. Finally she got there, they went to ER, ran blood tests and sent him home I thought it was over. It hapened again yesterday. But this time he had called 911 and told nobody until afterward. Then he called me because he couldnt get in touch with Princess or Bart. Goneboy is another stpry. His wife is a stay at home nurse and he is the owner of his own company and can leave whenever he wants but his cellphone requires a code to even leave a message. I never heard of that before. Didnt matter. He wouldnt have cared and ex doesnt like the nurse wife, although at a time like that.... Finally got both Princess and Bart. Peincess ferls she csn only do what he allows with no pressure. Bart has wnted ex to move to St. Louis a long time because Bart is always available and can leave worl anytime and has a ten year old, not a four year old like Princess. His priority is to get ex a cell phone, which he wont buy. I suggested life alert to ex but he said no. He really doesnt want to spend the money and said so but mu kids, especially Princess, are very stressed. So am I! I dont want him to die because he is stubborn. And the kids..... Worse, he never wrote up medical protocol if he is unfit and named nobody to be in charge of his mefical needs either. He has no will, which shocked me, but that is for later. What a mess that will be, but I hope its far into the future. Princess is taking him to tje doctor next Wednesday. He cant get in earlier. I told her to please tell the doctor about his menory. She said she would. Bart is fuming. He wants ex down there because he would make sure ex got help sooner and he has lots of room for ex to live there on one floor. Bart is pushier. Both kept caling me and I am trying to be supportive but I am running out of things to suggest and comforting words. I am struggling but want to at least comfort my kids. But they both want seperate things and to do it different ways. Bart should be calling in about an hour. He calls every morning. I dread it. I dont know what to tell him. Meanwhile, it is trivial in the face of illness but hubby and I are moving and fixing up our house. So we are exhausted just from that. We are going from apartment to house. The house is not quite ready for the dogs yet. So we just go to the apartment after we work on the house. Our refrigerator isnt working. Yes, we can get them to give us a new one but we dont really want them in here until all the boxes for moving are not in the way. So we have been stocking food in the new refrig at the house and eating from coolers at the apartment. It would be funny if the ex stuff wete not stressing us out. On tje plus side we are grateful to have family on hubs side that actually do house stuff for a living and did the floors and carpeting for less than $1000. Bless them to the moon. My best friend helps me clean and pick matching accesdories for the house. I am not talented that way but she is and we have formed a friendship I never dreamed I would find again I truly love her. Jumper and Hunter help us snd we help them ( we are BOTH moving into houses at the same time,). Bless them too. Sonic is also coming to help move the furniture in on Saturday. If not for the house I probably would go to Chicago for Princess and to babysit grand. But Monday our air conditioning guy is putting in central air and the fence guy is finishing the fence. We have to be here. I wont drive to Chicago after my accident and hub couldnt help much....he wouldnt know what to say or do. Today is a vet day for one of our beloved dogs.. Dont ask! And we are pickingn up our rescue Jackson next Wednesday. We cant leave. Thoughts please. Suggestions about how to relax haha. Anything? I feel trrrible. I have known ex since iI met him at 18. I know nobody longer and more consistsntly thsn him and I love him as a friend. I am sad for him, for my kids. And Princess gets the brunt of it because she lives there. By default, if you live near the sick person, it mostly falls on you. I am done. I am grateful I can vent here. Any wise words will be cherished. Thank you and look at the sunshine and enjoy your day. I am going to do the best I can. I feel so horroble about all this and the timing couldnt be worse. But there has to be a lesson for everyone in this. I believe that about everything. I apologize at the probable horrid typing snd hope you csn understand what I wrote. I am not up to editing. Love and light.